Understanding Gender

penis = male
vagina = female
conspicuous looking adams apple = more beer

 

I don't feel it's so hard to understand women, at all. But some don't agree with my grandiose theories.

 

Whether or not I agree,
I would like to hear them.

 

I charge for them...not that it's ever made me rich. But, it's not the money that is important to me, it's doing what I love. :sunny:

 

Do you believe that,
It is an overgeneralization to say,
All people naturally desire to have happiness over unhappiness,
And identify values and morals?

(I'm not sure how anyone could make money off of posting in any forum.)

 

Females and males are wired differently, is all goes down to biology.

From a few studies I've read, I'll conclude it to, males think while females feel. In terms, males perfer to use logic, while females use emotions. This enough explains why a female and a male have difficult within sharing their thinking together, as both view each other in another way.

Just research it on google, there are a lof studies on this. This why morals, values, differences, etc dont make up for the "same people" can understand each other. The brain in female and male gender is made differently.

 

Happiness is a value,
And both men and women naturally desire it.

But happiness is both a feeling ("I feel happy"),
And it is logical ("I think happiness is not unhappiness"),
If you remove either one, happiness is lacking.

The closer a man and woman become,
The happier they become,
("You complete me.")

 

It's not quite that men think and women feel.
Male thought tends to be linear, female thought more intuitive which is just as valid a way of thinking, just different. This is the biochemical side of things. Socialization of each sex is often different and we are enriched when we share those different insights.

We don't always understand thoughts from the other gender at first, but that's not to say that we can't eventually bring male and female thoughts together and each be the better for it.

 

Could you give some examples,
Of sharing different insights?

Sharing (which would involve understanding) seems to be an obstacle.

 

ive done research to and thats not what i found. guy seem pretty emotional in their own way (usually a little more on the angry side then sad) and girls are known for have social intelligence like being able to read a social situation better, becuz that was what they did in the beginning, raise families and keep peace so they are more sensitive to subtleties in interaction. they spent a lot of time communicating in their family groups. men communicate more directly cuz that is what is needed for hunting.

 

If a man and a woman have a sharp disagreement, sometimes a woman might push for a reply, but he might back off and literally leave to go do something (work on the car, go fishing). In many cases, it's not that he is permanently avoiding the situation, but he needs time to process what was said before returning to the discussion. Sometimes he realizes that he is agitated and just making quick retorts. When he cools down, he can be more conciliatory.
Women tend to have better developed communication skills and may not need this processing time, but they learn that the man in their life is not "calling an end to the game", just calling a "time out".

I dated a woman who was a "type A" personality. She would go and go all week long and when it came time for our Friday night dates, she was often fatigued and a little snappy. Also she had been raised to put a lid on it when someone did something that made her unhappy.
I knew that on those nights she was both tired and socialized not to articulate her frustrations, so I knew not to press to discuss it right away, but let her know that I was aware that she had a rough week, that I was willing to hear her frustration and respect her point of view. I might or might not agree with her but she learned that she could always count on me to listen with an open mind. She was surprised that my moods had fewer ups and downs than her moods. But she seemed to like that because I was her rock, the one she could always count on to be a steady hand in her tempestuous world. By the end of the night, no matter how tense it started, we had talked out whatever her frustration was, she relaxed and was ready for tenderness, caressing and sometimes passion. It always ended well.

I don't know the extent that this relationship between a man and a woman can shed light on all such relationships, but you asked for a specific example and that's what I have to offer.

 

Men and women are very different in their own ways... both find the other interesting and mysterious because the other is like a mirror reflection but not. we are two halves of a whole, and the one is always trying to find the other half.

 

From your example, it sounds like,
Ideally, happiness involves being open, not forcing, listening, communicating our frustrations,
And having hope that things will get better.
But, I'm not sure we can do this with everyone.
I think we can learn from the concrete to the abstract,
But ultimately, I believe, things are a matter of conscience.

Could you give an example of how women keep peace in a family?

 

Some relationships are abusive and wrong,
And I think we would need to oppose them.
I think following our conscience,
Needs to be the ultimate rock.

 

I do not feel abused nor has anyone accused me of abusing her.

I provided emotional support only. Her conscience and ethics have always been steadfast, no credit to me, it was within her already.

 

I was trying to speak generally,
Not specifically about your relationship.

It's just that,

I've met women in abusive relationships,
And they know its abusive and bad for them,
And they know it is an obstacle to their happiness,
But they also have a difficult time trying to leave it.
Some of these relationships are codependent and mutually abusive.

My point is that,

A sense of right and wrong (conscience) is one thing,
Actually following it is another.

 

im saying that was their role at the time (why back when we were tribal), since they were the main people to rais children, and were together with all the other tribe members more often, they they spent more time in the family environment, so when they communicated it was largely to bond and they were the ones with the most opportunity to think about and problem solve social situations, wheras men who hunted in parties or alone, talked more often to exchange data about how to get thins done and since you dont want to talk much on a hunt they learned to communicate with fewer words. the family structure isnt what it was so not all women shar that role. they are more tactful typically though with choosing their words in a way that wont offend ( unless they dont care if they offend) if you are gaining wait, men are more likely to say direct things like "stop eating so much, your getting fat" women are more likely to say " do you want to start going to the gym with me before beach season hits" or " my friend has been using a new exercise video and shes lost like 20 pounds in the last 2 months!"

 

I can see that.
I'm not always tactful.
There is wisdom is some traditions,
Especially if it follows our nature.

If I heard this I would likely think that it was great that her friend lost the weight she desired, but I probably wouldn't go much further then that. In some cases her statement may even seem random.

She may get angry and say, seemingly out of nowhere, "I'm saying your fat, stupid." Besides the fact that I was no longer simply fat, but now also stupid, her indication would allow me to be more at peace. I would be happier knowing what she thought, because then I could think about what to do about it. It wouldn't really be a problem if I knew she said it because she genuinely cared about me. Some male friends may say, "It sounds like its that time of the month again."

I think peace and happiness are actually there for the taking,
It just seems that we become attached to things,
Which normally bring us peace and happiness,
But which also become our obstacles.

 

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Here is an interesting clip on a side to the topic. It more refers to how physically the bodies operate different from one another.

But however you can still go on a tangent of other spectrum's that associate to how people are just different from another. Theres just so many descriptions and so many ways in attempts to figure it all out, and a lot of it really just collides together. hell Just to begin, it becomes complex.. Each person has a different life and has his/her own experiences directly relating to the environment they are put in. one whole society is completely different then the next one. Which plays a big role in that person thought process.

and if you do not want to go that route, You can go others... Astrological level further tries to break down everyone.. Chinese is done by years and Western does this by months, both allotting terms to each one.

Personally I think there is some key differences to the genders, Like above where stated about the heritage roles that each had and has been a mindset for generations. but the best way to think on it this is just by working with your personal surroundings and what type of society you live near to maybe give a better sense of what is going on in that area for gender roles, Cause not all areas are identical and the same.

In my area i see things, that would be easily considered in this aspect where genders just play a pistole role, however could find its easily dismissed by another area.