ughhh....Virgin

Well, hi, I am a 23-year old girl and I see I'm not the only one to worry about such stuff. And it makes one feel good to see that boys too have this problem, feeling uncomfortable with onself.
Well, the truth is that now I don't care anymore and I believe there are much nicer things to do in life, so enjoy life as you like it and don't care about the others' opinion. My strongest interests lay in building a career, that's very important, to be on your own feet I believe...

 

Bull shit on that. I'm 18 and still a virgin, but frankly I really don't care. Would I like sex? Sure, of course. I had one girlfriend back in 10th and 11th grade, never got to sex. After we broke up I've never even tried to get another girl as the few I liked were always taken.(Don't get me wrong, I'm not being picky, I just really don't want another relationship unless I really like the girl) It's like wanting a job, sure another job would be nice, last time I put in an application though was like 7 months ago.

 

I dont see why you couldnt do the first one and then the second one....

 

Just seventeen but thinking the same thing.And Don't mind about other people' thoughts! It'd be 1000 times better when it'll happen with a girl you're in love with. ''Patience is the strong people' virtue''

 

Im glad I started this thread, I was nervous at first but im happy with the responces, even the "negative" ones.

It seems theres two general main ideas on the subject here, those who understand/are/accept the virgins and the haters claiming we're afraid/shy/prudes, which is fine life would be boring if everyone thought the same.

InsaneJester you think you know me? but you dont, save your brilliant summations of peoples lives for someone you know.

Politics are Awesome, your right you can do both, many people do and are very happy. I think for myself though it would dilute the experiance with the one I end up spending my life with. thats just me though everyones different.

 

my first time was with a girl i was "in love" with. i thought i'd end up spending my life with her. i havent seen her in almost 3 years.

unless you're both really religious, i wouldnt put too much faith in "we're gonna spend our lives with each other"

 

There you go, man. I'm 20 and I'm a virgin, but I don't really care too much. Its not a huge deal to me. People think its weird, but so what. Let them think what they will.

And don't worry about Jester....he just has sand in his vagina

 

i think im ready to lose mine.

 

insanejester is a fucken idiot & i'll be amazed if he doesnt die alone.

anyways...there is something admirable about being an older virgin, it shows you can practice some self control. y'all seem like sweet guys & girls want sweet guys. not man sluts.

 

yo u are black white chicks luv black guys u mst be ugly or somethn

 

When I was 16-17, an acupuncture retired doctor (a family friend) was so god-damn shocked when I told him I had not yet started my sexual life. Of course, he had met his wife and had had sex together since childhood. That made me feel really humiliated, I mean the tone and the way he looked at me after he’d heard my answer to the idiotic stupidity of a question. He said that many girls my age had already started their sexual life since some years, he looked as if he could not come out of his shock and stupefaction and that really annoyed me and pissed me off and made me feel humiliated and stupid and geek and good for nothing at the same time... He said something like, ‘Well, it’s none of my business, I know, I won’t interfere,’ but he had made me already feel bad, inferior etc. and it was a really embarrassing moment...

I was sent to him by my parents because I had ‘caught’ a little anorexia nervosa and had to answer a questionnaire and to have a little discussion with him. My problem was the fear of gaining weight, nothing more. I also had a problem with relating to people, communicating, I mean something like shyness, or maybe social fobia... Never really got truly close to anyone as a friend for some time...