Top or bottom MERGED

I switch off... I'm usually a bottom though. I love the feeling of someone on top of me.

 

Sorry for sounding like an idiot, but as I'm a bit new to this, I don't know all the termanology. Anyway:

Which is which?

 

well, in a nut shell, for male to male... a top is the guy doing the fucking and a bottom is the guy getting fucked.

 

OOHH OK, well I'm keen to try both

 

I'm with the person who mentioned that either can be dominant. As I haven't had a physical relationship yet and my boyfriend won't be able to move here for another year, I can't rightly say which I would be. But my immediate choice would be versatile. He wants to recieve my love and I will be perfectly glad to give it to him. But I would definitely want to be bottom as well. I believe in a totally mutual relationship where both get equal dominance.

 

I do both, but I'm happier on the bottom.

 

I really like giving up all control and being bent to someone`s will... when you act like you don`t want it and then they force you to take it really dirty... and they keep spanking you and calling you naughty names... that drives me totally crazy.

 

I love being on top of my girlfriend. I can’t complain though the times that she has been on top have been great But there is nothing like being seductive and in charge...

 

Anyhow for me. Being a bottom is being the submissive one, the one accepting. Being the Yin to your partner's Yang. This does include the one getting fucked but I don't think it necessarily has to. In the case of my last steady beau it didn't mean that I was the one giving all the oral. He liked to do that too but he was in command as he did. As has been mentioned in other messages it does mean that you are the one recieving any S&M play but that is kind of another issue since you didn't ask about kinky things.

If you have observed same sex couples where one seemed to be the (I resist using these terms but can't think of others in my vocabulary that fit) wife & the other the husband that is an outward example of what I'm talking about.

 

It all depends on my mood, and how many people are in on it
yes definitely mix it up
and enjoy the variety

Tracy

 

Hmmmm...top or bottom??? For me... wherever I end up ... variety is nice

 

OK. What did Jungee mean by top/bottom. As a straight male all I ever heard this in reference to was S/M.

In that reference I am a top, although, if a girl wants to be top by no means do I have a problem with it (as long as I get top once in a while)

Hmm... if I were gay I would probably be a top, I like to please, and I like to be in control (very little faith in my partners ability to please me... with women anyway... not sure how I would be with a guy)

P.S. since this is the Gay forum, he probably meant pitching or recieving (only exclusive... words for... those roles. OK we need a terminology thread here lol)

 

I would hitchhike to Wonderland (is this possible I wonder) to be that piece of ass. lol. j/k.... mostly

 

I think I'd probably prefer to be a bottom, I tried it dry with someone and really enjoyed it. But I'm a complete pussy and am too scared to take it like a man. This combined with the kind of horribly effeminate fags I normally end up with means I've always been a top. I can't believe I can't find a gay guy more dominant than me, but there it is.

 

pitcher is a top
catcher is a bottom (recieving)

 

With men = bottom: I enjoy the whole man-in-control thing...with his manly scent dripping all over me...

With womyn = Top: I like to be in control of the kiss'in...I can navigate better from the top, and my kisses really get her red hot! :X -- Kissing is an artform,
U know

There is something EXTRAORDINARILY irresistable about ravishing a womyn's breasts, and sucking the bearded clam dry!!!!

 

You are A RIOT!!!

...Come to L.A., Babe...we're over-run with 'GURLY-MEN...PRETENDING TO BE MANLY-MEN... .

 

here...here...

 

I just asked about this on a yahoo group....my unscientific poll

I also indicated that Instinct magazine had told me that being "versatile" meant that you were really a bottom but didn't want to admint it.....that didn't go over well

I also didn't get a good response from the following: I love to take turns....I don't understand exclusivity in sex (besides for an exclusive partner)...My motto has always been I don't ask him to do something I wont do and vice versa....

It turns out however on that yahoo group that lots of people are exclusively one or the other......I also got a personal email explaining how anal sex is a social construct created in the past 35 years directing me to a site where the members strictly forego it.

Given that it's our most infrequent thing to do.....I didn't know it was such a big deal to others!

Brian

 

People get wound up about some very weird things. I can understand why people wouldn't want anal, but not because it's a social construct.

The versatile = bottom thing was used as a gag in Six Feet Under, so I guess it might be a joke in Instinct. There's also an argument that says if someone is versatile, they're more likely to be the sub because the dom is possibly the more desirable position. I can see where they're coming from if you think sex is about power, but I prefer not to be that person.