To tell or not to tell?

Thats a whole new debate in itself. I don't really care for it, but im sure as a community, there are other ways around it.


But as i said, thats a whole other discussion, back to this one. If you see something you think is wrong why hold your tongue? Sure there probably are selfish reasons to do so, but as a question of right and wrong, it's pretty clear cut.

If you see something you think isn't right, say it, say you thought it wasn't right, done.

 

Yes, there's a district director of spec ed. If you were me, would you notify her?
The kiddo I work with who has aspies is so sweet. The aides all thik he is mean, because he speaks the truth. One day he told me I looked horrible (I didn't have time to out make-up on). I mean he just says shit like that, but that's his disorder and looking for a chance to restrain him isn't going to help.
The one-on-one aides switch kids every quarter, so he thrives with certain people and otehr people he can't stand and vice-versa.
He is very smart and can go to college, so articulate.
ote=daisymae;5427617]If my son is restrained, the classroom is evacuated first, they don't do it in front of his peers.

I can't say if what you are describing would be abuse because I haven't seen it. They could be using the more intense program. We are on a waiting list to get my son into an Aspie class where they focus more on behaviour modification, so that he will learn to handle his small problems and be less violent. He wants to go to university be an engineer and I am worried he won't even be able to go to high school...

Is there a program director you could talk to?[/quote]

 

I've had glass held at my throat in a group home for boys just released from juvie. I can def say some kids need to be restrained. Especially kiddos with bipolar.
I don't think some kid fed up with being in an overcrowded class room when they have sensory issues should be restrained though when they don't want to go to the principles office. There are no quiet places for kids ont he spectrum to go and chill out int his school.
I give them props for being so inclusive, but they don't have any tools to make inclusion work.

 

Sounds like the people there have no idea what Asperger's is. My son's teacher tends to take things he says personally, too, and it's annoying. He is usually very sweet, but if he needs quiet he will tell her to shut up. They have to learn what being rude means and it's a hard thing to learn.

What is your job? Would it seem appropriate for you to see the director and tell her you have concerns or suggestions?

Xac, restraining isn't like punching them in the face or beating them with a stick, and sometimes it is necessary. My son might put furniture through a window. When kids with Asperger's are having a meltdown, they are long gone, you won't be reasoning with them because "Danny isn't here right now, Mrs. Torrance" You have to wait for them to calm down to deal with what happened...And punishing them for something they can't help would be mean.

 

The district can't afford school counselors, so they contract me from my company to come out a couple times a week. I meet with the kids deemed in need of psychological services on their IEP.
The thing that also bothers me is this: One of the kids I see with aspperger's told me his dad kicked him when he sat on the floor and refused to stand in the corner. I told the school i had to call CPS by law. The school told me his dad was just 'towing the line' and that his kid needs more structure. I called anyway and of course CPS didn't investigate it because it's Nevada and you have to kill your kid here before it gets taken away.
I'm going to let the director know at the end of the year. I heard to day the one aide who does this the most is leaving. I think she's the one who seems to hardens everyone else's heart, so I see it getting better.
They once also told me I neeed to get soem candy to bring to bribe the kids (this is how they get the kids to listen). This reminded me of my dogs and made me feel icky. I mean the way I see them do it. theya re always carrying a bag of candy (and eatign it too, even if the kid didn't 'earnn' any).
I am not saying I have never bribed a kid with candy, but wean teh kid off of it and not every kid needs it, especially when they're 50 pounds overweight and 8 years old.
I feel like I can't blame the school though because they get no training. I mean none. They've never had an autism specialist come talk to them or gone to a conference abotu autism.
It's just alarming how some parts of the country operate and don't get sued under ADA.