this is the first time i 'cheated'

Hey guys, don't be so harsh! Of course cheating is always wrong, but sometimes things like that happen. I too think you should break up with him as soon as possible, but don't tell him you've cheated that would hurt him even more.
I think the problem between you is, that he is too nice to you. Happened to me before, I had a couple of bfs who did everything just to please me and it would be like "So, what do you want to do tonight?" and he'd say "What do YOU wanna do?" It was as if he had no own opinion. You said he does everything for you, so it sounds to me like that's the problem. If one partner is too keen on pleasing the other, always of the same opinion than you, you'll lose interest very quickly. The spark is missing.
Yes, I have cheated before, but it was always in situations where I already knew the relationship wasn't going to work and I would definitely break up. And I have to say, i never told the other about the cheating to save them even more emotional pain. Maybe if you tell them you feel better with yourself cause you got it off your shoulders, but it's definitely not better for the other person, as it will produce even more pain. Be honest to him, but you don't need to tell everything. Good luck hun, and you're not a whore. You're just human and humans make mistakes.

 

Sometimes things like that happen...eh? "Oh I was just walking down the street and someone else's penis accidentally fell into my vagina. Sorry but these things happen".

It's obviously not happened to some of you. Or if it has you obviously didn't care about the person who did it to you. It destroys part of you, and very painfully. She's young, she's stupid, and she needs to stop making excuses for her own lack of self-control.

 

The difference is that you love your husband sweetheart. She obviously doesn't love her boyfriend anymore, that makes it so much easier to cheat. She's 17, I don't think she was gonna spend the rest of her life with him, ffs! Cheating is never right, but people make mistakes!
She was asking for advice, not judgment. I am pretty sure she knows it was wrong, but what's done is done and you can't make it undone. So leave her alone and just give advice or leave it. Amen!

 

whatever. this thread was postied a long time ago and I don't know who revived it, but the point is, Dejavoo is an awesome chick who understands that I come across in a very direct manner and she wasn't offended by it, so why should you people be?

 

yea im not easily offended...haha.

besides, im gonna get different advice and views from different people anyways, since everyone has diff. opinons about this kinda stuff!

p.s Luv, thanks for the really nice and understanding replies!!

 

hell yes, sister. I would expect you to bitch me out for doing something you thought was wrong!

you know I still dig ya.