The temptation to fuck around...

I totally agree. End one relationship before starting another one.

 

you give advice your way and i will give advice my way.....
and never the t'wain shall meet

he isnt sick of his wife nor does he hate her...he is thinking with his cock here and he is a pussy if he goes through with this in direction he is taking it....the kid will grow up hating his dad for bailing on them...end of story

 

Women don’t understand that we answer to a higher power “our cocks” :2thumbsup:

Hotwater

 

this is his common law wife...you dont turf your wife and child over a ''crush''..its shitty and despicable.....

 

Honestly man, I'm starting to think it's a normal thing at our age. I was actually planning to post something about this in the ask the old hippies forum. I've noticed lately that EVERY time I go and get drunk with one of my friends who lives with his girl/has a house/has a baby or whatever, when things get quiet towards the end of the night, the conversation always turns to:

''Oh man, I miss when we were 20. Things were awesome back then... We didnt have all those responsibilities and stuff... I mean I love my girlfriend and all but... how awesome would it have been to fuck that chick'' and so on... It seems like we all feel trapped as we move towards this whole family man thing.

Thinking about all of this for the last little while brings me to my next point. The way our society is made, as men, we get the short end of the stick, big time. Total ripoff. What are our reproductive instincts? Spread the seed as much as you can. Throughout the land, far and wide. In other words, FUCK as many women as you can. This is programmed in our DNA. It's what we are meant to do. Those are our natural inclinations - but what we have to do is settle for one woman, and crush that primal, undeniable animalistic desire to conquer and spread the seed.

Women on the other hand have the nesting instinct. Raising children, getting a good provider, and so on. In other words, they have their instincs fullfilled and we don't.

Now I'm not saying cheating is a good idea, because like mentionned by others before me, it hurts like hell, it's disrespectful, and especially with a kid, you dont want your kid to see you as the guy who cheated on his mom.

I guess all I am saying is we are fucked and the polygamous societies are a little smarter than we are.

No matter what you choose though, keep in to consideration that no matter how ''awesome'' you think that chick at work is, even if you would drop everything and go to her, you most likely would get sick of her as well after a while...

Sorry I have no advice. I'm in the same boat. I think we all are on some level...

 

Have you ever casually mentioned an open type relationship? I'm not sure if those even work but I've heard they do for some people.

My advice is don't get involved with a coworker, been there it's a fucking mess. Don't cheat I can tell you think a lot about things, the guilt would eat you up.

Tell the chick at work you have a lot going on in your personal life that you need to figure out. If she pushes more, run - she's a crazy bitch at that point.

Then think about it deep and long without the distraction of this new chick. Because I'll tell you, I've had a lot of girlfriends and I love women, but they are all more alike than you think when you first meet a new one. And they are all a pain in the ass. Sex eventually becomes a weapon etc. "this one seems different.." sound familiar?

If you really aren't happy and give it an honest try with your old lady, roll out. You will be a better father happy and fulfilled, and its the norm these days to have split homes anyway.

 

What's with the harsh judging? Did your old lady run off with your best friend or something?

And common law marriage is after something like 9 years.

 

It's disappointing when I see families make a baby together and have no real concern about the child's outcome. Kids view the world far differently than we do and all they see is their mom and dad having problems; during those years as a kid that is their life, yet no one really remembers this. If you make a child, you're in charge of that child's happiness. Otherwise, that kid will grow up embittered about his dysfunctional upbringing/family. When you have a child, your life is no longer completely yours, some of it must be sacrificed.

I have a feeling that your problems aren't as bad as you're making them out to be. Relationship is foremost about compromise, and the same would occur if you were to start a relationship with that other woman. If you were to start a relationship with this other woman, eventually you may have another child and you may find yourself back to your current conundrum all over again. It seems like you may have more a problem with compromise and perception of what a relationship is than not being about to 'click' with your woman. You may be looking for something that may not be there. Perhaps you need a reality check and acceptance of the way things are, then you can change the way you think about your relationship and then in turn change your emotions then in turn change your behaviors concerning your main relationship.

I know the other woman is tempting because you feel it's something new and exciting and that the possibilities are endless, but first look at what you have now and try to see the possibilities there.

 

yeah...it's a pretty normal looking one too


'cept for the ginger hair of course

 

good luck, the next forumer's glen...

i'm thoroughly single and i miss when i was 20 too.

 

We all miss when we were 20. The thing to realize is that you can't go back. Think Uncle Rico from Napoleon Dynamite.

 

I don't miss 20 at all. 30 is a better age for me, but then again I'm not tied down. Either way a kid is better if you split when they are young and they have two happy parents. As opposed to having no passion or arguing all the time, then splitting when they are older.

But if you leave for some random chick I bet you will end up missing your family as it is now.

 

Deviate, I can`t believe you`re 30, mang! You`re an old son offabitch! And, no family either. Who woulda thunk it??

Remember when we was young?

 

Its like you are Superman and I'm Bizarro, or the opposite way around. Everything you say is the opposite to what I see

You're 27? Thats around the age guys start to mellow out. Spread their seed? As long as its not to far from the couch in the half time break

Women have their instincts fullfilled? What the what the what the? Which is why they all end up angry and horny at everything.

 

And when we were 20 we missed when we were 16, and when we'll be 35 will miss when we were 27...

Hmm.. well you have a few years on me, maybe ill think differently then. All I know is I'm 27 and the urge to spread the seed is still going strong... Maybe it's cause I'm superman

 

I always wondered how women survived sex with superman. Wouldn't he blow their heads off with his super load?

 

I usually pull out

 

Good idea. There would be a lot of babies flying around otherwise.

 

Yeah it would be quite a handful for sure

 

I think I'm suffering from a pre mid-life crisis or something. I need to look at it like that.

Either way I'm glad I made no hasty decisions and have opted to try and find that missing spark me and my girlfriend had at one time. Me thinks should things go south at least I tried.

No fucking around I guess.