If a guy has ever had a virgin before he would probably know, there is often some shyness, hesitation and even some difficulty on first attempt. Women don't just come all that prepared as some men don't either, it would be hard to act like you done it before. And I am gonna disagree it's a small percentage that only have sex with the one they are with, love can mean a lot to some people and so honesty might come with that in right situations. Now it might be a small percentage that have only Been with one man in their life time. I have been with a good few but I stick with the one I am with and expect the same. Yes there would be swinger types but that's a whole different category. They get it what they are doing.
^I agree with 80% of what you said, and 100% of what you reference historically. But on the modern rationale of why this is still frowned upon, I think you left out some other reasons: 1. STD/STI's are a very real life threatening family shattering event that is solved if sexual behaviors on humans were kept track of and kept lid tight and controlled. (Huge moral issues but I am talking theory, given if we find out some one has a bad disease you could theoretically stop it's spread throughout the rest of the species, by isolating that person, with the ethics of rights of the many outweigh the rights of the few) 2. Childbirth still does kill women, a lot less so than in the past but it does. 3. Time/Money is still an issue regarding sex in childbearing, raising, and there is a strong moral question about fathers raising children that aren't his, and I know of a few legal cases where NON-biological fathers were forced by the courts to pay for (Kid a and Kid b) they thought were theirs under false pretenses. The logic of the court was that the men already bonded with the children in question, and that to just up and leave would be too cruel to them, so you still have to support the kids. ^there is a part of me as a male, that sees this as unfair and freedom limiting, because I think all people deserve to shape the life they want, and that includes having flesh-n-blood genetic kids of their own, and if my limited cash resources are spent on kids that aren't my own, I'm gonna be pissed. In the case of women, the kids they raise in 99% of the time, will always be genetically theirs, unless they are step children type scenarios.
I can honestly say that I am 110% sure that my husband doesn't desire to be with anyone else. (and yes, spouse and I have both been with plenty of other people)... I think for him it has to do with that sure, it may be nice to think about things now and then but really if you love someone and are satisfied by then.... there's just no great desire for everyone to potentially complicate things.
I am not sure why this doesn't concern most. Having another woman touch my man would be worst then someone sticking their fork in my plate and taking the one piece of meat I have on it. Aint gonna happen, some things are mine. Now let's consider we did this group thing and some chic comes along and tells us she has a kid of his in her belly. I dunno why it doesn't scare couples from doing it. A kid in this situation could be a really bad thing for him, how do you splain it to the kid, or do you just abort those mistakes?
Personally, as a middle aged adult, I wouldn't want to be involved in a swapping situation with a couple that has a problem with abortion, but the OP hasn't said anything one way or the other. It seems like an issue that can't be ignored. There have been a few tribal societies on earth where paternity isn't considered important, and I know one American woman who feels that way (due to an ugly divorce), but this isn't common. Where's mine? :toetap05: I earned it a long time ago!
I think it would be much harder for me to have so much trust in someone I met as a mature adult. When you've known a girl from the time you were learning together about sex and relationships, and trying all kinds of things out for the first time, and she's never stabbed you in the back before, it's a lot easier to trust her like a sister.
The only time my wife and I had a fuck-session with another couple, it was after the husband and I were good friends and had discussed in some length. I had met with him and his wife, and fucked her while he watched. Then he had visited my wife and me and fucked her while I watched! So we were ready for the full couple swap. We met at a hotel. He and I watched as our wives undressed, making very "lewd" comments about their bodies as they did so. When they were naked, they walked about the room, shaking their tits at us and spreading their legs right before us. Then I said "Joe, will you fuck my wife?" and he said "Sure! If you'll fuck mine!" So we led them to the bed, and he got up between my wife's legs, and I did the same with his. We looked at each other and said "Let's fuck 'em!" and we both laid our own naked bodies between the legs of our friend's wife, and drove our cocks into their cunts, together! As we fucked, he and I talked about what "great pussy!" we had and I was able to use my favorite phrase several times, which is "Fuck my wife, Joe! Fuck..My..Wife!!" We all came at about the same time. There was lots of screaming as our orgasms hit us and it was one wild fuckathon for several seconds. And the part I enjoyed the most was knowing that my friend's big cock was buried in my own wife's pussy!