The Real Definition of a Slut

I thought it was important to recognize these 2 statements, as there is a trend of this going around as of late. Girls who like wearing the label as a cool fashion trend, but are merely “acting” the part. I’m not naming any names or singling anybody out so don’t make this personal (Yes, I'm talking to you ).

 

Doesn't make a difference to me how other people define the word! In our house the word is used in playtime quite often and neither one of us look at it as a bad thing. My lady enjoys letting that side of herself out and I would not want it any other way.

 

I am a slut. A slut is:
Gentle
Sweet
Submissive
Beautiful
Sexually liberated
Free spirited

Basically like a hippie girl.

The word slut has always sounded like that to me, that and the word slutty. It always sounded pretty like those white girls. I have never found it offensive. Susie bright is a slut. Annie sprinkle is a slut. Cami parker is a slut. The rock of love girls are sluts. Hippie girls were sluts.

I agree with cherea that the slutwalk was incredibly lame and was 100% prudes. Can you clarify what you mean when you say that sex positive feminism is for welfare princess prurdes? I've heard nothing but bad things about the funfems lately, all coming from men who support womens sexual liberation. I have always found feminism convoluted with no clear message or united front. It makes women look even weaker than we are.

 

tbf, (and i' not sure about there, but over here) the "slut walk" was a protest march against institutional misogyny in the police force and the culture of blaming rape victims, co-ordinated by the major feminist action groups about, rather than a fashion statement or trend.

I'm not saying there wasn't a fashion side to it, as people wore things that they wouldn't normally wear in the day, but it primarily had a social purpose.

but there is a general burgeoning re-appropriation of the term, which is good, since the term is largely meaningless, and its redefinition and re-appropriation will only further divorce it from any original meaning it ever had. for such a term with such ambiguous meaning (that none of us can agree on a definition should be evidence enough for that), it seemed to have a ridiculous amount of negative power when i heard it used growing up, which really fucked some people up. the re-appropriation of the term robs it of its power, and shows it for what it is (in some cases, a reclamation can turn its power against the original users) so, good, really.

 

Well, I wasn't referring to the "slut walk". I'm actually referring to girls out there who want to be labeled as sluts because they think it's cool and hip. Like they want to impress their friends and/or guys by saying they're sluts when they're really not. It's just an act they're putting on.

 

Yes!

And then you have the chicks who slutted it out a little bit sometime in their past, and felt guilty about it. Then, they came across so-called sex positive feminism, or the slut walk and now they backward-rationalize their guilt and drop the word 'slut' around like a politically correct label.

Yet, they still end up monogamous with a pussy-pedestalian bore for a husband. Christian-liberal guilt at its finest.

Hippie girls are really mean under the flower power surface. Firsthand experience. Much like liberals are really tolerant as long as you support the exact same things they do. More guvment! No guns! Minorities are always awesome!

I don't quite have the mental strength right now to be organized in my reply, so I'll just drop some impressions in no particular order:

1) feminism replaces patriarchal chivalry (which they conveniently ignore when they paint men in the past as 'pure oppressors') with state chivalry. In the end, it's still...poor me, I'm a girl. So, instead of staying at home and completely depending on men financially, now they take on part time jobs and the rest of it comes from the state. Alimony, child care, welfare (hence welfare queen), and all sorts of legal advantages that men do not have. And don't you think that feminists will hesitate in the least when it's time to foot the bill on a date, or when it's time to let men 'take the initiative'; all the equality speech is out the window as soon as it's inconvenient;

2) as feminism pretends to be about equality while simultaneously claiming special rights to women, so does sex positive feminism claims to be sex positive while being anything but. Notice that sex positive feminists never include men. All of their little gatherings are about dildos and whatnot. Men's sexuality is still ignored at best, and usually downright demonized. To put it short: sex positive feminism is a cocktease. It makes the promises that anyone who's truly kinky would like to hear, but fails to deliver. The same goes for feminism in general for those of us who truly want gender equality.

3) Another power-tripping tactic is what the slut walk does in their sales pitch: "Women don't deserve to be raped however they are dressed" blah blah blah. When literally no one ever makes that claim ever. It's a red-herring so that if you bite they can knee-jerk and foist the woman-hater label on you. No I'm not going to rape you, in fact I'll avoid you if you as much as show cleavage in public. However, I do find cockteasing manipulative and disrespectful. Too nuanced for them, though. They must make things black and white and find a "conservative" or a "fascist" to demonize ASAP. It's the same thing liberals do through and through. Look at the title of their bills: Violence Against Women Act. If you're against that, then you must be in favor of hitting women, right?

 

its judgemental and out dated I think. Someone with no morals and no regard for anothers feelings and cheats is just that. someone immoral, doesn't care and cheats.

 

I don't know I've heard some really extreme right-wing people make the claim that women/girls should expect to get raped if they wear certain attire and go certain places...

 

yes.

whores can be either
but slut is female only

sleazy
lazy
useless
twat

and all sluts carry an infection
at least one !

usually hpv, or clymidia

 

A slut is a woman who sleeps with men she has no intention of dating. It's pretty simple in my opinion.

 

I would define as: women who takes money for sex. Today 'slut' is not the same as 50 years ago. What was slut 50 years ago, today is 'free woman'

 

First of all, this shows just how far we've come in a generation, in terms of acceptance. The young girls who do this now, their mothers would never have wanted guys to think they were easier than they really were.

Second, this kind of an act almost always has to be temporary. If you play that game long enough, somebody's going to call your bluff. Most likely, it's going to be your female friends who call you out on being a fake slut. You have to prove that you can do more than talk the talk. A lot more.

 

Wow! It's obvious you only see the term in the most derogatory sense. And you're saying if you don't have an STI then you're not a slut?

Wouldn't that be a prostitute? A slut will gladly sleep with people free of charge :2thumbsup:

 

I hate fake sluts and bitrendy chicks. They are a bunch of teases. They are probably snot nosed and arrogant, assuming that I am the fake slut or the prude because I don't put all my business out there for the world to see.

 

While many words, such as 'queer' = 'unusual', or 'gay' = 'happy', have had their initial meanings altered, as far as I'm aware, 'slut' has always been one of a derogatory nature.

 

Me lol

 

^^ how so?

 

I think he's pointing out that since there has never been a time when slut was considered a positive label it is not being "reclaimed" but rather claimed.

I've always felt a word like slut tells you far more about the person using it than the person it is being used about. Its used to shame and deride women for having sex and it belongs in a time where sex was considered sinful and unclean, where it was only permissible within marriage and where there are double standards between men and women. But mostly when it gets used its not by people who still believe in this kind of thing, but by guys bitterly talking about women who WON'T sleep with them or women who want to bitchily slag someone off.

Since I don't think sex should be considered at all shameful and that who and how many people you have sex with is entirely an individuals own business and not a reason for moral condemnation I like the attempt to claim slut as a positive label. Its basically just a way of people saying "there's nothing morally wrong with enjoying sex and enjoying it with many different people". The ethical bit in "ethical slut" crops up because having a positive view on sex doesn't magically make it OK to cheat on someone, or sleep with someone else's partner behind their back. i.e. being a slut isn't a licence to behave like a douche.

 

There you go.

People confuse genuine sexuality with sexual innuendo; sex with sexploitation; sexy with the cocktease all the time. In fact, wherever there is innuendo, sexploitation and cocktease; steamy hot sex is missing.

Part and parcel of our Christian-platonic (nowadays in cahoots with feminist liberalism) heritage.

 

An ethical slut is an oxymoron. It doesn’t exist. True sluts don’t have any moral or ethical conscience about the people they fuck. This “ethical slut” misnomer has been brought about by girls who want to wear the slut label because they think it’s “cool.” These people are not sluts. They are merely putting on an act. They play the role only when it's convenient for them to do so. As stated above, they are usually nothing more than teases.