The Classic Question: Could I Be Bisexual?

hey way to go and basically post what other people have already said. jk

 

Just go with the flow and what feels right, if you feel you like a girl and she likes you go for it. If you discover you don't like it fair enough - if you do well you've discovered something new and wonderful. The same goes with guys.

Sexuality is fluid. You don't need to label yourself anything particular if you don't want especially if you have got it wrong and your change people's opinions on yourself. Your only 15. But if it makes you feel better that your own choice. On the subject of lesbians in the family. I don't think sexuality is passed through generations; Inherited.

 

i dont completely agree with this. dont use other people as experiments just to see if ur straight lesbian or bisexual. thats just wrong. u can end up hurting someone if they like u and then u just turn around and say u realize now that ur not into girls or guys. while yes u should try to discover urself, dont hurt other people in the process.

 

i seem to have a similar problem. woman on woman action turns me on, but i am only attracted to men? and couldnt see myself ever dating a woman. im confused too /:

 

lol I didn't know it was something you could 'get'

Anyways.. just don't try to fit yourself into a category. Maybe you just like men or women.. or maybe both. You may not know for a long time.. Just let your feelings guide you and keep an open mind

 

Um.. isn't this what people do in ANY relationship?.. You date them because you think there is an attraction and a lot of the times the bond isn't strong enough to hold it together and one party leaves. Someone always gets hurt no matter what sexuality you are

 

no. i dont think it is the bond that is strong enough. i think u date someone because each person thinks they have similar interests and usually goals. yes usually there is a physical attraction but its assumed that if ur a girl and ur dating a guy that u are interested in the guy. the guy doesnt assume that u havent made up ur mind about being attracted to men or women. usually people break up because they find that they dont have the same interests and goals as each other. not becasue they are straight or gay or lesbian.

 

I think the answer may be a few years in arriving. You may be bisexual, or not- some people know their sexuality at a young age, others not, or it changes.

 

I don't think you understand what I meant. If she is bisexual, than she can be attracted to both male and female. If she dates either and realizes she is no longer attracted to them for whatever reason, may it be the spark is gone or because she has developed a preference for the other sex etc. it shouldn't be an issue.

Many straight/gay people are attracted at the beginning of their relationship and along the way the attraction can fade and the relationship will end. A lot of the time it is because one person feels that way.

Also to clarify, being bisexual does not mean someone hasn't 'made up their mind'. It means they like both men and women. So if a woman was dating a male, and left that male for a female, it wouldn't necessarily be because of preference of gender, just lack of attraction/interest in said person.

 

my uncle was bisexual. that isnt they way it was with him. he started off straight and eventually made up his mind that he would be with men. he eventually died of AIDS

 

If he was straight .. than he liked women. If he then decided he only liked men .. that meant he was gay. Being gay is different than being bisexual my friend.

 

I think a lot of teenagers go through similar feelings. During puberty, I was attracted to males and females, though I had a stronger physical attraction to females. As time went on, I found myself becoming less attracted to women, and being far more attracted to men. I think this is because as well as my physical attraction for them growing, I felt much more emotionally attracted to men, and not emotionally attracted to women at all. I now class myself as straight, as while I can appreciate a woman's beauty, there is no sexual attraction there, or any desire to have a physical relationship with women. When I was in my mid-teens, I'd have definitely identified as bi, now I know I'm definitely straight.

And you dont have to have sex to find out what sexuality you are, I'm a virgin, and I know my sexuality. I think it's something that just makes itself more apparent as you get older. Im not saying you cant know your sexuality at puberty, but just because you have bi-sexual feelings as a teen, that doesnt necessarily mean that you will always feel that way. Everyone's different, after all

 

definately. i felt similar as a guy during puberty. i wasnt 100% sure of myself tho it wasnt as strong as urs was. i wouldnt have said i was bi. i was unsure. i ended up straight.

 

idk. i just go by what he said. maybe he didnt know everything back then. this was the eighties when he was figuring all this out. being gay or bisexual wasnt exactly popular back then. he contracted AIDS during the nineties and died a couple years ago.

 

That sucks I think a lot of people didn't know much about aids in the 80's.. (some still don't) but we've come a long way.

I think that is one good thing to come out of all the hype of being gay/bi though, that people are more aware of ways to be safe and what can happen if your not. Getting tested and wearing protection could save a persons life.

 

I did read somewhere, that most men do have some sort of homosexual thoughts during puberty. Even ones that turn out straight. Im not sure if its the same for women, but I'm sure it's similar. I probably would of said I was bi. cos at that age, you already think you know what you are! I think a lot of people are very quick to slap a label on themselves, when they might not already know who they are. As I started becoming more emotionally attracted to men, my attraction to women seemed to vanish. I also think the myth that lesbians are ugly and just cant get a man, or have been treated terribly by men and go to women instead, is just stupid. I am in both of those categories, and had attractions to women in my teens, but I know I'm definitely straight, no doubt about it.

As for your uncle, Im sorry to hear that I think there is a good chance he was in fact gay, not bisexual. Lots of gay men, even today, have had female partners, just to try and hide their real sexuality. I'm not saying he wasn't bi, but just the fact he'd been with women before, doesn't mean he wasn't gay. Back then, the prejudice was even worse than it was today.

 

im not making judgement of my uncle. he said he was bi. not me. idk i figure he knows more about himself than anyone else. no offense but im gonna still say he was bi simply because it was him saying it. u could be right but most people know themselves better than anyone else knows them.

 

If he said so, then he likely was. Im not sure being bi is any more accepted than being gay, especially in men. Im sorry, I didnt mean to assume. :sad:

 

its all good. he was a barber so he would always cut my hair as well as my brothers. my parents didnt know much about AIDS when he got it but they were concerned about him cutting our hair after he got it. they were concerned that it could be spread by cutting our hair. in retrospect its funny how much panic the lack of information caused.

 

Im sure even today, some idiots still think you can contract AIDS just from them touching you, or whatever. Its not called an "STD" for nothing you know! lol