teenage girls, sex, and birth control

you're 17, you'll be 18 and an adult before you know it.

 

then they can't really say shit.

i dunno, man. i just don't wanna raise my grandchildren. i want my children to raise my grandchildren. being hornier than hell isn't wrong. being a dumbass about it almost IS. i know there's no perfect situation for getting pregnant and having a child, but at the same time, doing it when you're still growing your brain doesn't really seem like the best time. after all, wouldn't it best to allow your own brain to finish growing before you tax your body's personal resources with the growth of a fetus? have a bit of fun first...go to college...or just backpack through europe. i mean, c'mon. just to get laid one would risk all that.

 

I'm still wiser than they are. You kiddin me man? I know ALL that shit AND as an adult have full resources to combat it.
It's not like, ohhh they're skippin school. nothin I can do about THAT.
In any case it starts now not when they become teenagers. By then, it's too late. They are who ever you have reaised them to be.

 

i'll follow your lead, naturally.

 

of course! he's a smart guy.

 

one of the worthy ones, for sure.

 

Kind ladies indeed.
Hell, all I'm sayin is I wont let my girls get away with the shit I did just because MY parents let me. My parents vacated parenting when I was 14. Now, I may have done the exact same shit I did anyways but it sure would have been tougher and I would have had parents that gave a shit about my development in leau of some who cared more about themselves. Neither KC or I put ourselves ahead of our childrens well being.

 

My boyfriend and I raise our kid. We know that she is ours we dont expect anyone else to take care of her. Its not like we planned on me getting pregnant it just and we had safe sex. It was our choice we took the chance and now we are making the most out of it. Yea I didnt finish up highschool but that is because we didnt have anyone to watch our child but i did study and got my GED. Now im in college and i have a job. We are making the most out of what we got. The only time her grandparents watch her is when they want to. Yea its been hard but im glad it happened because I couldnt picture my life without her.

 

peachy for you, sweetie. but that's not the norm and you know it.

 

Yea I know,but i just wanted to stand up for the teen parents that dont expect their parents to watch their kids. You are right tho most teen parents do expect their parents to watch their kids. My thought is that its your kid you should raise them.
I do want my child to come to me when she is planning on having sex or at least thinking about it so that I can tell her what all happened to me. If she does choose to have sex there is nothing i can do to stop her.

For any teens who are thinking about having sex let me give you some advice. Even tho you might be using condoms and birth control you can still get pregnant (thats what happened with me). It is very hard to raise a baby when you are just a teen. You can make it but it will be hard to get by for awhile. You can still go to school and get a job to support your child but it isnt easy. You dont get to see your friends that much (most of them will leave),people will be saying things behind your back and to your face,you will miss out on going to college parties and doing whatever you want whenever. I no because im living that way right now. I dont regret having my child but there are times where I wish I was older. But i love my child and she is my everything.

Just be careful.

 

a more acceptable outlet for such advice than us old people. my husband's mother was a teen mom. i've know more teen mom's than i should. our world is just not really set up for that sort of thing.

 

I think sexual education should be given to the teenager at school. And at home mothers should take care of their children and should be free to approach. At the most parents should have a good and friendly relationship with their children to avoid unwanted sexual harassment and pregnancy.