Teen internet monitoring.. need advice

you gotta go one way or the other, you can't be strict sometimes then give in, this will just lead to a terrible cycle, either you make them fear you so much that they will never dare to disobey you, or you try to make them feel horribly guilty if they ever were to lie to you, the fear thing works better on boys but its generally easier if you have the guts, but the respect path is better overall for everyone involved...so you know, either take out the belt, or have some heart to heart talks with her and discuss what you both can do to make the situation easier

 

I also dont think you should tell her... not at 14, if she was around 18, then maybe... but about the bullitins, that can happen if your myspace gets hacked, and generally does happen. It usually happens because ppl see these bullitins taht say free ringtones or whatever and you click on it and it takes you to a fake sign in poage that looks real and says you must sing on to see this, when you put the password in the site saves it and then auto logs on with it and post more similar bullitins. You can fix it by changing the password to something its never been b4.

 

Forreal. Once my mother backed off, I became a lot closer with her.

 

yeah my parents tried to pull that shit on me to.... it made hate them and have a horrible relationship with them that i dont think is ever going away and it made me a genious at computers i learned how to get around even the keyloggers, it isnt to hard she will probably figure out after to long...

and trust me this is a REALLY bad idea you shouldnt be so uptight with her she will start to hate you and never talk to you about whats going on in her life and eventually this will cause her to move out when shes 18 and never talk to you again if you keep it up....

 

I think you're taking it a little bit too far. She has to be allowed to explore a little on her own. I think it's fine to insist that she keep her profile private, but there's no point in logging in to her account - she'll just find another way to communicate privately with her friends. And I think recording her keystrokes is spying.

I get it, honestly I do - but I'd back off a little if it were me. Like Deech said, not only could his make her resent you but if you get in a tech fight with a teen you're bound to lose - they're just really good at this stuff.

Remember that kids these days are remarkably savvy. All those stories about 14-year-old girls flashing creepy old men on the internet? Those are very rare cases. Most girls can smell a creep a mile away and have no interest in talking to them. I can tell you've done a great job of educating her about the potential dangers of the internet, and I bet she's perfectly safe now.

 

She hasnt been posting links for porn.

A company got her myspace password (they can get it instantly from myspace) just read the terms and conditions. The companies that pay for myspace to run can use people accounts to advertise their product.

And btw, taking the computer away for a week? What kind of punishment is that? Like did you read a book called "worlds most generic punishments"

Im not saying your a bad parent, thats just a bad punishment.

 

check her email thats linked to myspace, you can check your password from an email, you just have to hit recover password and it sends to the linked email. try using "family key logger". it monitors everything and is free.

The porn link thing is just an online virus that you shouldn't have to worry about.

 

Honestly I would be so pissed if my mum did that, infact I needed privacy so bad I got my own computer.