Teacher with a problem

With that kind of talk you are also giving yourself away without even realising it, yes you might think that way, and a lot of guys do. But the girls dont, yes they might go along with what you say, nod their heads and say "Yes Dear". Wait till you work out what they really think when they hear you talk like that.

But again, thats not the trippy part, the trippy part is working out why the gals feel more comfortable with a 14 year old girl babysitting their kids rather than a 34 year old gal. They'll nevvvvver tell you

 

are you saying I have gay tendencies?

 

Every time I have heard about a teacher student sex scandle it involved a hetrosexual couple. This shit pisses me off. A strait man wont get fired for working at a school with girls, nor a strait women at a school with boys.

 

No, the exact opposite really.

You hear a story like the OP has given here, and you immediately jump to he's gonna be interested in girly types or young boys, which is the way guys at the straighter end of town do think, cos guys interested in MEN doesnt make much sense to you.

Whereas girls at the straighter end of town, will think the opposite way, they hear about a gay guy and they are going to jump to imagining two firefighters playing with each other, guys chasing girly guys doesnt seem all that gay to them. To them, a gay guy interested in MEN, safer to watch over their kids than bi or straight guys. Thats how most of them think, even though theyll never say that shit to you cos you'll get all sooky.

When it comes to raising, supervising kids, doesnt really matter what your opinion is, it is the females realm.

Gay guys shouldnt be looking after kids? A lot of straight guys might say that kind of stuff or think that way. But the reality is, if you were to look at every primary education class in Universities across your country, its always the same 19 chicks and one guy that knows how to accessorize and no straight guys, the other girls wouldnt let them (not that they would in the first place, not the most masculine of jobs) cos they know theyd end up having their computer taken away by the police

 

I have no idea what the person above me just meant.

 

the op's clothes ar ghey,, not gay.. big difference?> one is LAME. the other is lame gay person with no taste..

 

That Death is probably right.

That the OP talking about dressing in a cute fashion = gay means he is likely to be focused on cute or effeminate or young boys.

Both Death and I would feel more comfortable him watching over young boys if he was the type of gay guy into big beefy men with buzz cuts i.e the opposite of his students

 

Well, I dont really think it matters whether he is attracted to beefy men or sissy boys, as much as it matters that he is being deceitful about it.

 

where do you take it that there is such a clause in his contract? he hasn't said there is anything like that. I agree with your logic but I don't get where you would jump to such an assumption.

he might just be a gay guy like any other, who doesn't advertise his sexuality. he doesn't have to go around and tell every person he meets who he prefers to have sex with. Also, maybe he likes the school and the workplace, or maybe this is the only job he could get. Should he just have declined on the presumption that he wouldn't be hired if his sexuality was known?

 

I guess I did assume that. I thought I read it somewhere or something.

yes. or maybe applied and volunteered that information. The most they can do is say no.

 

Contract clause wasn't mentioned but the implication is there in his first post. I would come to the same assumption.

 

and all I read from those sentences was that he was a guy worried that he looked or acted gay, which is why he turned to this forum with pictures of himself. at most those lines show a certain insecurity about oneself.

maybe you should ask him before you start implying that he is deceiving people. this is exactly what I find you guys lecturing against on these forums -- against people jumping to conclusions, and now here you are doing it yourself.

 

I never said I wasn't a hypocrite.

 

Sometimes, in the real world ppl talk in a code.

Perhaps it is a generational thing, when you come from oppressive times or places where one must conceal their sexual orientation.

I was reading what I interpreted as code because I know there are certain religious based private schools that are allowed to discriminate against hiring gay teachers and would screen for such. So, all the bolded parts of his post appeared to be code for a guy working at a private school where it would not be cool to be known as a gay man.

Sometimes you have to make conclusions with limited information.

You may conclude that I am not a gay man because I regularly donate blood and men who have ever had sex with another man are not allowed to donate blood.

(Either that or I lie on the questionnaire.)

 

well, since I'm completely oblivious to 'the code' or whatever there's no way i would've come up with that.

 

that's the exact same way I came up with the conclusion of the contract clause. Private schools can do whatever the fuck they want.

 

If being gay weren't at least a little bit of a potential problem at his school, the poster wouldn't even have asked us about it.

As a gay teacher, I can understand his position. Even if there is no specific clause in a contract about sexual orientation or "moral turpitude," a gay male instructor is in a potentially difficult situation in most places. An all-male private school may not be the most comfortable atmosphere.

Even when sexual orientation isn't an issue, students will always be curious about their instructors' private lives. One of my female colleagues once told me that a student mentioned in her evaluation that she [the instructor] went an entire term without wearing the same outfit twice. If only our students paid as much attention to what we were trying to teach them! If there are students who are so interested in what their instructor wears, imagine the result of coming out to some students!

The problem is that being out in the classroom can be a major distraction, something that gets in the way of doing my job. For that reason, I understand how kandel1989 might not want to come out.

 

I understand the deceit part, I mean theres a whole range of crap they have to put up with if not all that obvious.


But getting past the age when most people my age started having kids, I get that things get a bit more real when its your own kids involved.

And really its a male vs female thing more than a gay vs straight one.

If I adopted a daughter, sent her off to preschool and saw that one of the teachers was an obvious rug muncher, I wouldnt even blink, dont care shes gay, she's a chick. But if Adopted a son, sent him off to preschool, saw that one of the teachers was a gay guy into girly types, I would pause. Then again, if I saw a straight dude teaching preschool at all I would not enrol the kid no matter if the kid was guy or girl, I'd be WTF is a straight dude teaching preschool for?

And as that kid got into highschool, it would be the other way around, I'd be more worried about straight teachers that are the opposite sex to my kid - dirty old man vs my teenage daughter, horny old maid vs my teenage son.


Might not be realistic, but when it comes to your kids, you got to go with what you think the odds are

 

So... we should employ gay guys to teach preschool, and straight guys to teach highschool? I think that's what I got from your post, it's hard to understand.