stressed out and at my wits end

*update time*

well, the next day we went to go talk to our landlord, and she seemed to have a different attitude. We outright asked her is and when we should be looking for another place, and she said, "as long as you want to stay here for. I'm not ever going to ask you to leave. I like you guys." Whew. Cody and I were so stressed, that when she said that, even HE started to cry! She talked to the people below us again and basically told them to fuck off, and that we were trying to do as much as we could to figure out why Leane has been so hard to calm down.

As for the car, the leak has been itty bitty...maybe a drop about 4 inches by 4 inches. I got under the car and looked at it, and it seems to be a hose or a seal coming from the water pump. so hopefully, it's not a huge fix. we have it booked in to a mechanic for friday...hippylandscaper, oh how i wish we could do it ourselves, lol. We have a manual for our car, and as Cody was reading over it, he looked at me pretty bewildered and said that we need to take it in. But thankfully, the leak is small enough that we're able to get around for the next few days until it can be fixed up.

As for calming Leane down...I think it could be anything anyone here has suggested. I have a huge feeling that it could be stress related, and that Leane is picking up on my edginess. Right now I'm just trying to weed through anything it could be.
thanks for all the replies

 

I know where you are coming from.

I JUST started a new 8 hour an evening job. I work til 2am. Brian's company closed and he suddenly needed to look for work. Finances have been UBER tight. And on top of that, we had to find sitters for Moire the last 5 weeks while I was doing training during the days. So needless to say, it was stressful. And Moire was a pill during a lot of it. Fussy and clinging and screaming. And it was all because life was topsy turvy and mommy and daddy were stressed out as well.

Maybe take just two-three days where it's just you and her at a park or swimming, have picnic lunches, cuddle a lot. Basically reassure her that you are right there for her. Don't divide your attention. And during this, explain to her all the changes that will be happening. And even though she might not get it, hearing it all will help YOU calm down. And thus, all will be right in the world once more. Maybe not completely stress-free, but a whole lote better!

 

take u, hubby ,leane and baby and move into a commune!!!!! I'm not kidding....here in Oregon theres oodles of them and life is so much less stressful!