Stress Management - What Is The Fuss About?

it is just as stressful to force an introverted person to fake extroversion as it is for an extroverted person to fake introversion.

i'd be the last to deny, there are some very wonderful hammers in the tool-kits of psychology and religion.
but the most wonderful hammer, isn't going to magically turn everything into a nail.

oh yes, we can make it easier for ourselves to accept anything, but doing so is no better then some form of chemical addiction,
because it doesn't fix a problem that only exists because we statistically together create it.
a world which generates so much less stress as to seem none at all, is perfectly and entirely within human capacity to create.

 

Thanks, I've always been really high strung. I was able to get it under control in my early twenties and keep it under.control until a couple of years ago, but the stress of new mommyhood plus my job and very limited time for any kind of outlet have really has really caught up with me. When I do find time for an outlet I approach it too intensely, like I mentioned with the exercise or some kind of manic creative outlet. I always come away from it feeling more wired instead of relaxed.

I know a lot of it stems from my job. I know everyone says this but I've really realized the 9 -5 is not for me, I just feel like 40 hours of my life every week are essentially meaningless. Its not a mindless job, I find it stimulating in some ways but I have a lot of creative energy and I need a job that can utilize it.

I actually do keep a gratitude journal and have ever since I went through a deep depression 10 years ago. It keeps the depression at bay but not really the restless anxiety. But I find what you said about viewing everyone as a god especially interesting - when I really started to fall into this anxious rut I was coming from a place where I really loved people to a point where I had some bad experiences and started turning into a bit of a misanthrope. Maybe I just need to learn how to like my fellow humans again. Its hard though, humans can be real dicks.

Sorry to write a journal lol

 

Oh and I forgot to mention, I really want to try acupuncture. I have tmj and constantly clench my jaw and I've heard acupuncture can work wonders for that

 

Yes, people can be dicks. Maybe it's a matter of keeping your heart open while still watching your back.

So I've tried adopting the "everyone you meet is god" approach lately. People will still be dicks, but my reaction is more like, "ok, god was just being a dick". It's kind of like no matter how someone behaves, I still try to see them as part of a benevolvent universe.

I'm not saying that I know this to be the truth, but looking at the world this way, so far at least, I'm a lot more friendly, forgiving, grateful, and happy.

I've heard it can be good for that. They often charge too much for it though. If you can find a teaching clinic you usually can get a much better rate.

Acupressure self-massage might be worth trying

http://www.herbalshop.com/Acupressure/Acupressure_42.html

https://youtu.be/VTKqvaY84G4

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=tmj+acupressure

I haven't checked out these sites too thoroughly. You may want to check this out.

I know that point location is important in acupressure, so you probably want to be sure you're hitting the right places if you try this

 

Remembers me to the story of a Zen-monk during an audience with the king. He was invited to the king out of honor. So, both were sipping tea when the king suddenly insulted the Zen-monk:

Baldy, your head looks like a penis of a horse.

Whereupon he smiled, bowed deeply to the king and replied

Your majesty, your head looks like the Buddha itself.

Completely perplex the king uttered to the monk

Hey, baldy, I insult you and you just smile and bow. How can you do this?

Buddha eyes only see Buddhas, horse eyes see only horses

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Yeah, everyone you meet is god himself And every dick you meet is... :-D