State Your Unpopular Opinions

Exactly. “Your husband’s a lucky guy,” is something that would irk me from a guy at my last job. And partly because I’m married. He would say it coupled with a compliment about what I was wearing or how I looked etc and he was married.

I felt like saying “your wife is an unlucky woman.”

There’s all kinds of scenarios that are inappropriate. I think there are some men who just don’t know how to view women on an intellectual or even friendly level, they only see us as a set of body parts. They had childhoods where their moms were disrespected by their dads or their dads were sexists. It’s learned behavior.

Not all men mean anything badly but that’s why there is training...for those who are ignorant as much as for those who are arrogant.

 

Lol

 

Having said this though, every accuser deserves to be heard and taken seriously but every person who is being accused should be heard, too. If there are witnesses, that helps but if there are none, I’m not always on the side of women because there are times when women lie. Especially when men and women date from the same workplace and they break up. Many people seek revenge which is why dating coworkers is risky, imo.

 

When someone compliments me.

 

GBET..

 

A wise one once said that mansplaining occurs when there's a miss-understanding.

Weren't you the one who said you wished men could live like women for a day and understand womanly struggles? I'd participate in that study; it sounds like a good idea. As long as there's going to be plenty of women who'd be willing to participate by living as men for the same reason. I'm an egalitarian myself and I think a lot could be learned from such an experiment. But who cares what I think, right? As you said, I'm just your slave muscle to stand around and open a jar when you need me:

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Sexism is not a 1-way street. Maybe, just MAYBE, this is the reason men and women are waking up and realizing how divisive and hateful feminism has devolved itself into, and that a mere 23% of women identify as feminists in America. Poll: Few Identify As Feminists, But Most Believe In Equality Of Sexes | HuffPost

I've never worked HR so I don't have all the answers. If someone offends you, you have a right to report them, and the company should investigate the matter. But if the person who harassed you got disciplined by HR, never apologized, and does it to you again, you have a right to take further action.

Now one thing that bugs me is when sexual harassment and sexual assault are conflated and mistaken for the same thing. They are not.
While both are unacceptable, one is way more extreme than the other, and should be taken beyond HR, all the way to court. I think those who false accusations of sexual assault should face the same consequences as those who are guilty of real sexual assault.

 

I don't think this is actually an unpopular opinion. You'd think it should be the consensus that expectant mothers shouldn't be on drugs. If you've met an addict who had a kid who didn't have some horrible defects, then they're very fortunate. My sister was addicted to oxycodone, and later, heroin. She was doing drugs when she got pregnant up until she found out, which was definitely long enough to do damage because she was a mess and missing her period was common for her and no cause for worrying about pregnancy (in her eyes). She switched to suboxane after she found out but that isn't necessarily harmless either.

On the outside my nephew is normal, but he didn't speak actual words until he was almost 5 years old. Just grunts which I came to understand eventually, despite constantly reading to him and trying to teach him to speak. She went back to heroin after having him therefore couldn't breastfeed and couldn't care for him much, and refused to take him to a speech therapist. Even at almost 10 years old, he still talks like a normal 5 year old would, and he's emotionally immature. He's stunted in everything but growth. And even at that, he's a little smaller than kids his age. But not by much. It's a shame and I honestly think addicts should be spayed like stray cats.

 

Mansplaining lol



Definition - when men think they need to dumb down language to get through to women lol

I think this is good that we are discussing this. I tend to lean on the side of egalitarianism ...we are equal in personhood and we should take responsibility for that.

 

I find that woman are more condescending than men though. a woman will find ways to intricately put another person down.

 

You missed my point, there.

I was being ironic.

 

With the Kavanaugh situation...three women have come forward. Now this paints a diff picture for me. Especially, one was pretty recent in terms of sexual harassment.

I watched the interview with him last night and he grew up in a strict Catholic home going to an all boys Catholic school. It could be that he developed weird behaviors around sexuality and women ...Idk. But I don’t think that someone who has a trail forming of harassed women should be the SC judge.

 

If he wasn't taught the catechism properly that is a very real possibility.

 

I don’t think there is a proper way. Which is why so many people end up lost in their faith. But we won’t go there lol

 

I grew up Catholic. Hmmmm...maybe that explains my weird behaviors regarding sexuality and women

 

I was raised Catholic as well, but now I’m just recovering lol

Anyways...back to unpopular opinions ...I can’t think of any right now.

 

No disrespect, but I think this statement kind of says it all. I mean if one doesn't know the proper teaching one doesn't really know it's veracity or its ability to be taught properly.

I feel impelled to respond to anti Catholic statements.

We'll agree to disagree.

 

I recovered my faith

 

What exactly are you recovering from, Deidre?

 

We need to talk more.

 

*tawk