"Spending time"

There you go.

And yet, in depth conversation usually comes about from a shared productive activity. Try and have an in-depth convo with someone you just met...

Very hard to do. That's what I mean by doing something, first.

I remember one of the first times I started coming to touch with that insight. Me and a friend of mine, while I was in college in Pittsburgh, decided to go for a long walk. We went past the ghetto, and then descended toward downtown on a street lined with abandoned steel-mills.

In silence. It was an overcast day (I'm such a romantic, right now).

And then, we had an in-depth conversation about economic cycles and what that does to people's lives day-to-day. I don't remember the conversation exactly, but I remember how rewarding it was.

And, the more we talked, the funner the conversation became. We'd be taking shots at each other's opinions with humor. But, not bitterly, simply as disguised affection.

 

Yeah, there genuinely has to be something else involved in order to add a little extra stimulation - coffee, alcohol, hiking, knitting etc.

I thought that went without saying though.

 

Yeah, we usually say the guilty owe a debt. They grew older on their own time you don't make them older by your absence.

The effect of expectation is always an attempt to forestall disappointment. To expect to gain self fulfillment from the presence of another is a contradiction of terms and does not work. Someone is always disappointed.
When you give someone some of your time you divide your time and attention between yourself and them and that doesn't leave you with a thoroughly wholesome relationship.
An unenthusiastic presence is named reluctance. You, I am sure, make accommodations the best you can.

 

This.

 

Is it a lady?...if so then "spending time" means "listen to me bitch about anything and everything"

 

Well, apparently it doesn't. People time and time again prefer to consume together rather than produce together.

Hell, look at Christmas. I can't get any of these fagots I know to dance with me, EVER. I've been begging my female cousin to take me out to dance for 3 months. But they sure as fuck want to eat and small-talk.

Edit: Granted, I drink. But that is to smooth out the awkwardness of social situations in which you're expected to relate without any productive activity involved. In other words, impossible.

 

We are all torn between the explosive attraction of creation and the comfortable peace of consumption. A balanced approach is called for. Maybe you still haven't met someone who you feel comfortable just being with, without having to do anything. Or maybe you will always be happiest doing, and you should find people who are like this as well.

What do you feel like when you're not doing anything, do you feel like you're wasting time?

 

What, you don't like sitting around and eating with people?

Holy mother fuck.

 

You all have so many conditions that go with your social availability.
Just smile once in a while.

 

Hey, sometimes I enjoy their presense and wisdom. Depends.

 

Oh, heeeeeellll no. Fagitz!!!

 

Oh no! Don't touch me there Santa...

SANTA NO!!!!!

 

Things we know about Cherea:
1. His heart was once broken by the woman of his dreams
2. He was fingered by santa as a small boy?

 

Things we know about Face:

1. believes one can only love one person

2. believes in Santa, that is: small-talk, overeating, and consumerism

Fagg.

 

lol, if only you knew how many different people I slept with, and loved in my younger days...sometimes at the same time

As to number 2, if you had my family, you'd like Christmas.

yer massive gay poof

 

I do have a family. And, I've been heartbroken many times not just once, Cinderella boy.

 

But your family is mad gay - hence why you don't realize the value of eating and drinking one's self silly with one's family at christmas time.

And yeah...there has to be a reason why you hate women.

 

I don't think of anything specific when I am going to spend time with someone, it all depends on what we both want. Of course the only person I ever spend time with is my boyfriend and all we like to do is garden and talk... so I guess that is what I think of when I think of spending time with someone.

 

Sounds fun to me .

 

quality over quantity

i dont mind talking, but it can get boring, i prefer to talk while eating or drinking or doing something.