Sooooooo Lonely.....

if someone has to work hard to maintain their niceness, they're usually a bastard within.

niceness is generally over-rated anyway. usually when someone tells me that they're nice i think, "uh-oh. this person for some reason believes they have to convince people they're nice."

 

Well Dr that seems to be the case in Fla, its like nobody wants to be romantically invovled at the moment. you should keep yourself busy with friends and activities, thats how I pass the time, because I too am lonely, but theres someone for everyone you just have to wait your turn.

 

Yeah well probably not, but I look really good naked, and isn't that what really matters?

 

Sorry, that's not true.
What you (and others who report the same difficulty) have run into are the asshole guys who PLAY at being nice in order to snare a "score." That's the trouble: there are decoys out there.

I'm a nice guy, loving, considerate, affectionate, romantic, individual, articulate, compassionate, friendly... and I've been passed over plenty, and it hurts. It makes you wonder WHY you're nice, when it virtually gets you nowhere.

But those of us who truly are good guys -- and would remain good guys even years into a relationship -- take umbrage at you saying we don't exist. I'm not gonna fizzle into nothingness just because you refuse to believe in me...

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

Missfontella has a point peacfuljeffery, Nice straight guys are pretty fake.
You ever considered the possibility that you might be a gay Sensitive compassionate nice guy?

 

Well, why deny it. Sometimes I do feel that I have to convince people I'm nice, because (as some say they can see by my typing) I'm sometimes a little "clinical," a little "hard" or "formal." I know that I've been dumped by girls who thought I was a bit too critical of things (life in general). I guess they wanted either a guy who doesn't think very deeply about things, or a guy who might think but just shuts up about it and doesn't share his thoughts.

Anyway, having been told on occasion that I was seen in a way that didn't match the way I see myself, I guess a woman would have to have the ability to see through some things to see the real me. But sometimes I make an effort to suppress the hardness and let the joyous, happy, free Jeffrey come out and be seen. I don't think that's being "fake," I think it's striving to be a better person. If you are a messy person, but you clean up the house when company's coming, are you being "fake"?

I may seem critical and cynical, because honestly there is so much I see wrong with the world that I can't keep it bottled in, and I have to express my feelings about it. Maybe some day I'll find a woman who can make me relax enough that I don't have to focus on all of that, or who makes me want to be mushy gushy sweet all of the time with no opportunity for hard-ness.

But the characteristics I show in general-day-to-day life are not what I necessarily show on a date, either. I AM sweet and positive when I'm with a girl. It's just that a girl has to get past what she sees when we're not a couple in order to witness how I can be when we are a couple.

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

I was just kidding PeacfulJ. Girls If a guys acting to nice to you, i guarente Hes either trying to get into your pants or just maybe a little gay.

 

Now thats a pretty sterotypcail thing to say. I like nice guys not all of them are gay, most of them fake it, but it's nice to Know that real nice guys are out there, don't worry guys your day will come when you meet a girl unspoiled by all the past assholes she's had.

 

Sometimes Stereotypes are true, lil blue.

Hah ryming is fun, but seriosuly, I've been a guy for 19 years, trust me ladies, If a guy is acting too nice in the begging, hes making up for a bad personality.