Society And Sex The Hidden Taboo

in fact, why don't you just make it one big orgy and invite everyone?

double ew...

vomit

puke

 

I should have clarified, by next generation I am referring to the children my generation gave birth to. And that is people well into their 20's.
I first started noticing it maybe 10 years ago or so. And I am sure where you live also affects that. I am in the midwest, so we tend to be a good 10 years behind this sort of thing.

 

Teen pregnancies are going down, and have gone down dramatically since it's height in the late 80's.
I absolutely believe this is, in part, due to a more open society that talks about sex with their kids as my generation did. (I had my children in the early 90's)
Comunication = education. And the vast majority of societies ills are born of ignorance not knowledge.

 

Open candid conversation should begin at home....about everything....(I never was sheltered from anything).....and not on the internet where there are all kinds of creeps, psychos and people with agendas.

 

of course, if sex is all you want, i say go for it and good luck.....to all knowing parties.....

Some people want more meaningful relationships.....or do without.

 

Why would you assume a relationship where people are sexually satisfied and in tune cannot be meaningful?
So meaningful relationships are only ones where sex is not important?

 

I did not say that. i wish people would stop putting words in my mouth.

 

You are coming across very negative in this thread Moonglow. Maybe you don't mean to, but nevertheless you are.
You are basically accusing those who think sex is important, and wish society was more open about it - are perverts and freaks that just want orgies.
That is demeaning and a very negative spin on what I see people are saying.
Sex is important, and for others more important. It doesn't mean that they don't care about anything else and just want the relationship so they an screw like monkeys. It means, for them, sex is an integral part of the relationship. I am one of them.
I am not a freak, I don't want to run outside and join a neighborhood orgy and have public blowjobs at county fairs.
Give us a break.

 

That is fine. Did I attack you anywhere?
I was just saying how I felt about it.

 

"but please don't expect the rest of us to be put in a straight jacket and not talk freely about sex. I guess there will always be some people who can't handle frank sex discussion and "





Once again....in reference to your above statement....I do not expect anything, so please do not paint me as such.
Everyone should be who they want to be and talk about what they want. I never said anything different than that anywhere, ever....but please respect how i feel as well without painting as me as some kind of police person.....perhaps, it is my fault for ever coming to this thread in the first place.....as I do not wish to talk about it anyway.....for me, it is a private matter.

 

So I was watching Family Feud the other day and the question was "What could you do to 8 people at once if you were an octopus?" and a lady answered "Jerk them off." It was one of the top answers.

I don't think any of the...pro-sex? people on this thread know what they're talking about when it comes to relationships. I'm always reading on these forums about people who just love fucking and their marriages are falling apart, and they can't understand why. Well maybe it's because it doesn't work to treat people that you profess to love like pieces of meat. You make a practice of objectifying people in the bedroom and want to simultaneously be treated like a dignified human being outside of the bedroom. That's what's so screwed up, and it doesn't work.

 

all I can say is that I believe in real, true love.....and for me sex would be an expression of that.....but once again to each their own.....

 

I'm now going to talk about the sexual experience I had with my girlfriend Diane , because I think it's relevant to this topic.

When I was dating Diane back in the early 80's, at times we would be together in her bedroom having sex, but not full blown sex BTW just masturbating. I had the sense to know then that I had better not get her pregnant or I would be in big trouble with her parents and all the rest of it. So what we did is quite simply masturbated each other and that was good enough to release the sexual energy that came about while we made love together. Now in this ideal sexually liberated society I am talking about, sex is out in the open for everyone to discuss including family members. So in the scenario I just talked about with Diane, her parents would have been far more forthcoming about talking to us about sex and how we should go about it together in a safe way so that she didn't become pregnant. I would have expected to have had a serious discussion with her parents and Diane about this issue. So sex talk would have then been out in the open and regarded by society as an easily talked about issue and quite the normal thing to do not some kind of taboo.

In my case of course I had the sense then to realise then, how to go about having sex with Diane in a safe way. I'm sure it's not always the case like that in teenage sexual relationships though, when real penetrative sex is being practiced and not masturbation. So there you are you see talking about sex and bringing it out into the open would certainly go a long way in stopping unwanted teenage pregnancies and also stopping the transmission of STIs to.

 

Lol

Or....

Whats more likely to happen is that neighbour will think you are trying to sus out things about his wife

Or you are just being a prat and trying to rub his nose in how awesome your marriage is, and his isnt.

Or you are just a creeper whos eventually going to invite them to a swingers club, or wants a four way

The real reason no one is really open about their sex lives

 

Yes and equally people who love each other in marriage have bad sex lives and the marriage falls apart, nothing new there I don't think.

 

Yes and that's simply because of the way sex is viewed in society as a taboo. I am the forward thinking one here and the rest of society is way far behind.

 

So what do you think about the hurt feelings in sexual relationships, backchat? Like when a guy likes a girl and she sleeps with another guy. Do you think the guy who likes the girl is just being silly about sex and what the girl does is really no big deal? I am trying to understand what the grown up way to think about sex is.

To me it's a big deal. To me it seems like you take the whole thing too lightly. I think the problem you'll find with our being a sexually "open" (as you call it) society is that people are just way too different. Me, I'm obsessive about the people I like. If a girl I like is promiscuous with other guys, it destroys me inside. Is that because my parents weren't open enough with me (my parents NEVER said anything about sex to me) and didn't explain to me that sex is just some silly thing that people do? There's no way I could function in a society where having sex was as big of a deal as going bowling together. But I could be way off base here. Not sure I'm understanding where you're coming from.

 

Of course you're going to get hurt feelings in a relationship like that, but that doesn't make sex a really no big deal does it surely. People have break ups and just move on and start again, it's called being grown up and dealing with life.

 

I think it is a big deal, too....and I want to say to you that everyone feels differently about things, and some take things like sex seriously and think it is a big deal, and others don't....but don't question your own feelings about it just because a majority at any given time may not agree with you...will they do your dieing for you, too?....we need more leaders and not followers for everything.....