So I've slept with over 100 people...

After reading all the posts from the 'thread starter' I see you have already answered your own question.

You are what you feel ..... but if that 'feeling' seems to be over powering you then its considered a form of addicition like any other (food, drugs, excessive activity, or thinking)

If you feel your not letting your sexual life get in the way of a relationship then I'd have to say 'you are you'

From way you sound, I don't think you need anyones opinion on what feels comfortable for you

If you feel in control of yourself then so let it be
If in doubt then take steps to help the situation

Enjoy your journey an try to take your time to smell the flowers along the way

 

Short answer, yes. Ironically, I consider myself to be very similar to you in the male form. Everything you said was pretty much identical for me... except for the fact that I watch porn, have been with multiple partners at once, often don't use traditional protection, etc. I guess that makes me more of a slut than you, so keep bangin em out! :2thumbsup:

 

Good one

 

Lol I wasn’t aware there was an entire faction of society classified as “100+ chicks” and that we were so rigidly scrutinized. I never meant to imply that I routinely hold off on sex. I know instantly whether or not I wanna sleep with a man and depending on the situation that can take 5 minutes or 5 weeks to happen. It’s all situational. If I meet someone that I like I actually take the time to…yanno…talk to them and such.

Men who are overly preoccupied with knowing the type and circumstances of every guy I slept with before him is a turn off to me. Do you have this conversation with every woman you want to fuck? Do you play a round of 20 questions with every potential lay? Does a chick need to have an elaborate presentation with pie charts and graphs to rank and quantify her entire sexual history to get you to take your pants off?

Like I said before, I don’t generally give my numbers to men. Most dudes who are just trying to smash don’t ask and don’t care. When I was younger I was asked a lot more but at my age it rarely comes up outside of relationship situations. So if it didn’t happen in a vacuum the way you deem it worthy then it didn’t count?

I really wasn’t trying to brag and I’m sorry if you read it that way. I don’t wear my sexual past as some kind of badge of honor, it is what it is. I also think having a type is a far cry from marriage.

Lol that’s a hell of an assumption. Is this one of your pre-bed 20 questions? “Of all of your past sexual partners, on average, how often were you the initiator? If the answer is anything less than 60%, I’m sorry, your application will be denied.” To me it shouldn’t matter how it happened or how often, what matters is that everyone enjoys themselves when it does happen.

I don’t have any problems going after what I want, but a reality of life is that women don’t have to approach men because men approach us. That’s just one of the fortunate side effects of being born with a vagina. Sorry if this vexes you so.

Lol was that necessary?

I don’t think of sex as some kind of competitive sport and I don’t fuck men who do. I started this thread because of a conversation I had that reiterated lame ass societal stereotypes about women and sexuality. I wasn’t trying to prove or disprove my levels of sexual deviance and I don’t think my sex life is what defines me as a person. All I need to fuck someone is attraction, space and opportunity; everything else is just semantics.

 

Both I think, I'm a total switch hitter. It really depends on the guy and how I'm feeling at that particular time. Sometimes I wanna be taken and other times I like to take control of things.

 

I think it's ok to have whatever personal preferences that you want.

This comes off as kind of judgmental though

personally, I don't like girls that come on to me. I think that's because the girls that have come on to me have generally been very selfish and obnoxious. being friendly is fine, but generally the more aggressive, the more of a problem they are.

so to each, their own

girls have to summarize the history of chinese art from the tang dynasty to the present in order to get dick from me

 

There are about 20 of you in the world who don`t get paid for it. So...you`re high profile and high stakes, babe. Sometimes we are thrust into positions of power, and responsibility though we may not want them.

Does the talking usually involve them paying for drinks?

No, on all counts. I`m not interested in my partners' past. I`m only interested that it happens at all with women who want things other than jumping through hoops, wining and dining, marrying and nagging. Which it doesn`t.

My experience right now is approximately 80% based on hookers, as a result.

Yeah, but it takes two to tango.

It`s what VG said. You`re going to get a kind of guy that way. The lackadaisical thing renders whatever compatibility we might have on the level of sexual experience void.

You do have to approach men, if you want a man like me. Which obviously you don`t. Vanillas are a lot easier.

Absolutely.

I`m ahead of that curve. You can argue with people who think there`s something wrong with your upbringing or that you don`t "respect yourself", if you`d like. (I wonder if it`s a way to get attention?)

My worries are of a totally different ballpark.

 

Wasn`t a judgment. Only what`s a turn off to me, personally.

Edit: I do have the diametrically opposite experience from yours, though. Topsy-turvy world.

 

I really wouldn't care. I just really wouldn't.
Don't ask about me,I won't ask about you.
Tomorrow isn't guaranteed,yesterday is a closed door.
It's just you & me. Here. Now.

 

FUCK that black button!

[this double-post did not happen!]

 

And You Are Everything Iv'e Ever Wished For...:love:.



Cheers Glen.


EDIT:- Whoooops, I Meant To Send The Above Post As A PM....

Puuuters Still Confuse Me Sometimes....

 

HoneyGlen,if you can rip your way through this tight string vest,you can have me!


[just,promise to be gentle........at first]

 

lol that's because it is a judgment. The implication is that basically because my sex is allegedly "vanilla" (whatever that means) that it somehow diminishes the validity of the sex I had and with how many people.

He also assumes that I'm some spoiled little attention seeking girl who makes men buy her things to get into bed with her. None of which is true, but there's nothing I could say because that's a preconceived notion about women in general.

Like I said, its not a competition to me. I do what I like, and that works for me. That's about all there is to it. I get mine how I like it, when I like it and I am quite content with that arrangement

haha!! I'm gonna start carrying around surveys in my handbag. Apparently there's a lot of important information I'm not asking for.

 

This is the acme of selfishness. Does that include married men? If you decided the flavor of the month had a wife and kids would still try and screw him?

Also, how many times did one of your 120 come back and say they had feelings for you and you had to play games to get rid of him?

Don't get wrong, I'm no prude,am not religious and have a ferociously high sex drive but you don't seem to see that there are all sorts of risks and consequences to your behavior.

Unless you ran into 120 very selfish, commitment-phobic men there is no way you didn't run into a few where the sex was good and there some intellectual/ emotional connection that could have been the nucleus of a meaningful relationship.

I have been on the other side of women like you, women that I found to be beautiful and intelligent that I slept with and fell in love with. I know they liked me too but to them it was 'just sex' and when I wanted more they backed away leaving me emotionally damaged.

All I know is that I am eternally grateful that I found a lifetime companion, friend and lover in my wife.

 

no i wouldnt

 

now, wait, she didn't say anything about banging married men or playing games with people.

I would agree though that there are some responsibilities that come with fucking someone. you shouldn't mislead anyone about what you want from the relationship. and if you've caused some damage, you should try to fix it

 

that's pretty damn rude, flying fly

this is the free love forum, afterall

 

it's a dissenting view

 

no. saying "I think your so-called 'free love' life-style is wrong!" would be dissent

calling someone a whore is just harassment

 

I never called anyone a whore in this thread. Check again.