I do, but I don't. I want to because I want to know if Nick and I can get to another level of trust or of friendship or whatever, and because I'm curious to what the fuss is all about. I know Nick loves me, but he's not in love with me. And I'm not in love with him. And I don't want to go that far with someone I'm not in love with, mainly because it gives me reasurrance that they have an emotion for me other than lust. I also don't want to have sex because I'm afraid of every possible outcome and I can see myself doing something stupid. I don't want to have sex with someone I'm not in love with no is in love with me because of oxytocin. That bitch will make me love the person forever and I have no control over that love. I'm also scared to death to lose the person I've had sex with. Afraid to be that venerable. So, pretty much the cons are greater than the pros at this moment. Really, the only three good reasons he's given me to have sex are marvaling at how perfectly matched the human anatomy is, and that I would trust him more than I do now, and he would be there for me because he always has and he's not going anywhere for a very long time. And I want to be able to tell my children when it comes the time that they have to hear the sex talk, that I was in love the first time I had sex, so I knew everything would be okay.
bummer, i thought this was a thread about bellydancing - all i see are several pages of the degradation of a young soul who wants to express themselves by embracing an ancient, beautiful and spiritual form of art