Yes, in past relationships whatever the guy's insecurities were turned into the subject they belittled me about. I was engaged to a guy who was pretty overweight. Instead of fixing his significant weight problem he belittled me after the holidays when I would gain 5 or 10 pounds. I had a boyfriend who was really untoned and was unhealthy as he was a heavy smoker. Instead of focusing on his own insecurities and working hard to change them he would berate me. This same guy also had some financial problems. We met when I was working part time and didn't make a lot. Right before things ended I made more than him and he started cutting me down to the point where I would have to hang-up the phone and not take his calls until he could handle being a bit more positive in nature. It's not ONLY that though. It's important for me to lead a comftrable life and one where my future family is very giving, charitable and ambitious. If a guy doesn't have those traits when I meet him and is all talk about the future while he has nothing to show for the now it irritates me. I could never date a guy who couldn't spend a day in my shoes. I wouldn't be able to treat him right and I never want to be in another relationship where I can't make my partner feel valued and appreciatted.
