My spouse has never liked anal either giving or receiving so I do it myself but I wouldn't call it being pegged. It's more of a prostate massage. Never had a partner strap on a fake cock and fuck my ass. I have a prostate massager I use occasionally and masseuses have slid a finger inside my anus while giving me a hand job. It'll bring me off if it hits the right spot. After over 40 years married I suspect my spouse knows that I have had my ass probed but it isn't something we ever did together.
If I see that my wife has had a bad day I wait till she goes to bed, we work opposing schedules, and I go down on her till she makes me stop. So I don’t think we have a self continuous problem in my home. Hope you and your husband find things like that to help your situation.
Same I love it. wish my GF did it more often and without me asking. Would love for her to just take me and make me take her dick.