Seeing a fuckable person a certain way

And sadly the only reason she became the nagging wife in the first place is because you got to know her. So, one can fuck people they don't know and have a good time, or fuck one person until that person becomes 'stale' (for lack of a better term). Both result in never really getting to know a lover, or least in a lasting relationship. Kind of a bummer...

 

Our sex drive of itself is not discriminating. I challenged my own physiological reactions to the female form because they had a tendency to obscure honest assessments.

 

At least totally unnecessary.

 

what is unnecessary?

 

emmm i have to know someone first i think.. i wont look at a fella and think " yeah il have sex with him once"... because i'd end up likin him more if i had sex with him..

it kinda means somethin to me

 

The scenario you describe. There is no reason that familiarity would necessarily lead to contempt.

 

No, not in every case. I was mostly referring to Cherea's case. Although I was also generalizing a little, which is never a very logical thing to do.

 

That's a misconception.

The reason why she became a nagging wife was because her primary interest in me was control. It's a matter of whether becoming intimate with someone requires that form possessiveness due to our fear of losing them.

In which case relationships are doomed to end by nature, like the sun.

 

I can't honestly say that I have never had the desire to have sex with someone who I wasn't mentally and emotionally attracted to. I can find someone physically attractive, however, without liking them... but I wouldn't want to sleep with them.

 

Yeah, we don't do much in our sleep anyway.

 

I had several "Friends with Benefits" in my teens and early 20's. Had a lot of fun, even found one girl that would want to screw just out of boredom of nothing else to do. Damn, I thought guys only wanted to do that.

There are women out there that are willing to do it. But... usually someone gets more attached than the other, just normal it happens but it can still leave one or the other hurt.
With the right girl or girls it can be fun though. Usually I only had one girl like that at a time and it would last anywhere from months to two I saw off and on for years, but the most I had available at any one time was three, did it with two different girls one day, one in the morning, another in the late afternoon and the third the next morning.

Most unusual for that to happen though, I felt kind of whore-ish about it later as I did care about each girl, they were afterall, friends first. But I wanted to try for all three the same day. It was and still is a fond memory.

 

Most of them :cheers2:

 

Mrs Poplo here.......................I have to be attracted to the person before I sleep with him but i can honestly say the most awesome person I've had in bed was a guy I didn't even like but he was after me so much I finally gave in and I'm glad I did for he was awesome in bed probably the best I've ever had including my husband.............we were lovers for sometime! Wow did he know how to work his tool ..............