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don't listen to what other ppl say. This is a rather disgusting episode and he behaves like a jerk, but dumping him at this stage for something like that would be about the worst thing you can do for your child. if he persists in such things it may/should become another matter of course.

and i agree he's probably quite confused. you call off the marriage because you do not want to have a party around the child, but the baby did not unexpectedly appear a month before the marriage, right? He's likely thinking that there was some other reason.

 

guys are childish. thats what it comes down to. let him blow off steam and when he's gone. leave dont return his phone calls give it a week... he'll come around

 

You have to resort to "tough love" on him and remind him in no uncertain terms that he's the father of your baby and that as such, he has an obligation to you that he can't shirk -- and that if he abandons you, you'll go legal on his ass.

That should wake him up.

-- Skeeter

 

Ok...listen.

Maybe he thinks you are trying to control him too much.

Work out a compromise with him, if you two really want each other.

Tell him that he can drink or party, sure. But, responsibly--on certain times and not ever around the baby. That is reasonable.

If he doesn't go for that. Tell him you can't take him seriously enough to hold together the relationship.

He can be responsible without living the life of boredom. He just has to know that freedom comes to those who act adult and use it responsibly.

-LIBERTINE

 

I agree with Libertine