It may have been a long post but its author at least had the consideration to break it up into paragraphs and was reasonably well written. To Marco- your consideration and civility in a difficult situation is being used to enable the bad behavior. The roommate may or may not realize his rudeness but that's not your concern. You need to quietly but firmly draw the line- some very good suggestions among amusing but destructive revenge tidbits. I sense that you do not want to escalate the situation so it may be necessary to pack some things up- like the TV and printer. If you can afford it, lay in a supply of disposable plates and utensils. Your roommate is a leach. As long as you have the wherewithall to leach off he will continue to do so. He is never going to figure out that you don't appreciate his rudeness and he feels entitled to "his share" of your things. He wasn't brought up to respect boundaries and there isn't jack shit you're going to be able to do about it without being at very least confrontational so limiting his access to your territory to reduce the aggravation that you'll have to deal with until the end of the semester and when it's done, be done with him... get a new roommate next year. Don't worry about not being nice about drawing the line either. How much should value his feelings if he shows such complete disregard for yours?
Best post here yet. Thank you. Unfortunately, it is too late. I'm contacting Housing and Residence tomorrow morning and will be calling my parents to let them know that I am looking for apartments off campus. I have been gone most of the weekend. As usual, I try to stay off campus to retain my sanity. Things had actually been going ok with my roommate, I didn't really talk to him but asked him to turn down his music and clean the dishes. He apologized for his music being loud and said he would get to the dishes soon. At that point, I realized I could deal with most of his behavior but what was setting me over the edge was the bitch. *WARNING You all knew this was coming and I should have seen it coming.* Friday night I planned on going back to the dorms but got way too drunk for my low tolerance. I crashed at a friend's house and went back to the dorms on Saturday afternoon. My friends all had to work Saturday night so I sat around doing some reading. My roommate came in for a little while and asked me what I was doing for the night etc. I was waiting until about 11pm for my friends to get off work. They picked me up and we went to a couple parties. Around 3am I was offered a ride back to campus and couldn't wait to pass out. I don't remember getting inside the building but I remember getting on the elevator and then walking down the hall. I opened my door about 6 inches until I saw a leg in the air. I closed the door and turned back down the hallway. Now my roommate and I have this unspoken thing where if I am gone for the night he texts me and asks me if I am coming back. But really, no harm, no foul. I headed back towards the lobby to bum a cigarette off someone figuring I'll give them a few minutes. Nearly 20 minutes later they come down to smoke a cigarette. I headed back upstairs and got on my laptop to check my e-mail and shit. I laid down and started searching all the channels to find COPS. No matter what time of day it is, COPS is usually on some random ass channel somewhere. My roommate and his bitch come back, which is unusual because she normally does not spend the night. About 20 minutes later, I gave up on TV and rolled over sleep. Within seconds of me turning off the TV they start whispering to each other. I was getting pretty frustrated at this point and am about to turn over and say something when they start fucking. Less than 30 minutes ago I had walked in on them, gave them the time to finish up, and now they are fucking while I'm in the room? There's a certain amount of disrespect I can tolerate. I accepted that they were both boderline white trash that had been raised with no manners but the line has been crossed. If I do not get out of here in the next couple weeks you can expect to hear about some bitch getting a headfirst trip out of a 4th floor window.
I considered turning over and saying something but I knew like last time they would be completely uncovered. The noise of the bed creaking was probably too much for me to yell over anyways.
seriously marco you need to man up. your roomate is fucking his gf in the same room as you. and you just lay there quietly? wtf?
I just got done drinking for a solid four hours. If I had somewhere else to sleep that night, I would have said my peace and been out of there.
it's your room man!!!! you could have said "hey! stop fucking! i'm trying to sleep!" i mean don't get me wrong, i think it's great that you're non-confrontational. more people should be that way. but in this situation it's not helping.
Judging from the GROSS DISREGARD for your consideration, you'd have been fully justified to create the mother of all scenes- opening your door with them clothed or not and at the top of your lungs shouting "Get the FUCK out!" repeatedly until they did exactly that... then take your room, peace, and sanity back. Hell you were DRUNK and could have used that as your excuse for creating the scene.
When I first got back and they were fucking, I felt like I could at least give them a couple minutes. I'm not going to be a total cock block even though I don't like this kid and he had the ENTIRE FUCKING WEEKEND TO FUCK HER. When the came back and fucked again, I was shocked. I should have woken up my RA, called the cops and made a hell of a scene but I wanted to sleep and have too much weed/paraphernalia in my possession to create a situation that would without a doubt bring the cops out. I'm going to talk to my RA right now.
It woulda been hilarious if while they were fucking you got up & started looking @ porn on your computer & started jerking off & if they said anything just be like 'oh, well I didn't want to feel left out' or something. But yeah, I think almost everyone at some point has had a shitty roommate. I had one who did the same w/ the girl situation. His g/f would always be over, watching some horrible reality show on my tv or watching some lame dvds on my dvd player, despite never asking me if I was planning on watching something, or asking if they could use it (99% of the time I would say yes, but its just common courtesy). I also had a roomate who would fall asleep at like 10 watching movies/tv & I would come in like 2 hours later from doing w/e & have to turn everything off & the remote was always in his bed so I wouldn't bother touching it, lol.
lock up all your shit and tell him to fuck off, or find someone to live with that isn't such a total fuckin' cock. take control of the situation- you aren't gonna get anywhere if you let him fuckin' walk all over you.