isn't that called the electra complex? when young girls are subconsciously in love with their fathers and are jealous of their mothers. it's a pretty weird (and disturbing) concept in psychology. just don't think about it too much, or else you'll never wanna kiss your boyfriend again.
same here if I see any signs I run particularly with drinking or excessive spending or somone being too smooth. I feel bad because I'll not go out with a guy a second time through no fault of his own he might just be trying to show me a good time or impress me but that kinda sets off the signal in my head that says RUN. I usually go for overly responsible guys actually, educated, well spoken, gentle natured but protective, talakative, everything I want to be but am far from lol. I am usually very good at picking boyfriends.
Well....I've heard that before. I thought I had picked the total opposite. Then he morphed into a weirdo. The same exact kind of weirdo as my dad. Now I don't trust my judgement. Whether you think you pick your dad or not, everyone should stay engaged for like 10 years. I'm only half joking.
It's called the Oedipus complex for guys and the Electra Complex for girls. The idea is that in early childhood, you feel a subconscious sexual attraction to the parent of the opposite sex, so you look for partners with the same traits as that parent. It's a bunch of Freudian bullshit. Most of Freud's crazy-ass theories are no longer accepted.
it is true, up to a point. If your father was disrespectful of women, you are much more likely to go for guys who are disrespectful of you rather than the kind who would be nice to you and treat you right. It's even more true if your father was abusive and controlling that you will go for guys who are also abusive and controlling. My first husband was very much like my father in many ways, alcoholic, abusive, disrespectful, and very intelligent. He was different from my father in some ways, but mostly he treated me the way my father treated my mother. For a long time, I thought there was something wrong with guys who were nice to me, like it was a sign of weakness. I've known my current husband twenty-some years. People were always asking me why we didn't get together, I just didn't see any attraction towards him at all. He was always kind and respectful of me, something I found abhorrent in a man, until I realized how foolish that was. It wasn't until my father apologized to me as he was dying that I was able to break free of the cycle of abuse that was all I had known all my life. It was then that I knew I had to leave my first husband. And it was then that I started, very slowly, falling in love with the man I will be with the rest of my life.
