I kind of disagree with Red. I wouldn't put up with this shit (NOT telling you what to do, Droopy. I know everyone is different)... The reason why is simple: she's posting publicly prior to discussing something intimate about myself. That is a breach in emotional safety with anyone, as far as I'm concerned. And one hell of a passive-aggressive move. And saying it ain't got nothing to do with me doesn't help matters, since if it didn't have anything to do with me- she'd still be talking to me. No wonder, Droopy is mistrustful. P.S. If she needed personal time WITHOUT making it public before we spoke, that would be cool with me. Even if she told me she had to talk to a good friend...But what has transpired is entirely different. Then again, I take absolutely no shit from women ever ever ever. It's a fault with me. It's probably wiser to be more tolerant than I am.
I don't disagree, but I don't see how this is in any way being turned against me. I just don't understand what makes people act this way, I think it's rediculous. And as I just said before this, the reason she doesn't want to talk about it might be that she is harboring feelings for her ex still.
CORRECT! As for Cherea and the internet thing. I don't know if I would call that publicly. Maybe I am a little old-fashioned but I still see the internet as something very unserious, almost to the point of sillyness. Getting upset over it is something I would not be doing.. Ramona, good advice. Snoop, nothing is anybody's fault. I just would have acted differently to you that's all.
Thanks Praxi, you hit the nail on the head. I am mistrustful, and perhaps it's because I can count on ONE FINGER the girls who have been honest with me in my life. It's sad, but I have notoriously bad luck with the girls that somehow find me. To be fair, the only decent one I was with was from here.
You're probably the extreme opposite of me. If a girl breathes funny around me just a once, I'm out the door. There is probably a happy medium for both of us, Droopy.
I don't know, we might be more alike than it seems, the thing is I am very mistrusting, but I try to be optimistic. It's just really hard sometimes after all the shit I've been through. Im not tryin to be a martyr either, in no way am I saying that I'm the only one that goes through shit, it's just that lately I've been through an aweful lot.
That pisses me off too! She hasn't called me in two days leading up to this, but I figured it was because of the holidays.
Thank you man, I really do appreciate it, especially from a standup guy like yourself. Maybe we'll both have better luck with women in the future...there has to be at least a few good ones out there.
normally, i'd be all over jumping her ass and making her miserable. however, if i say "i need alone/quiet time," i mean it. y'all have see me whe i haven't received it. i lose it and say the freakiest things.
I don't know... maybe she's just expecting that you do something special for Christmas with her, like some romantic dinner, give her romantic gifts, tell her how much you love her... Some girls want things like that. If it's not this, who knows... maybe you did something you didn't even realize was wrong - in her view I mean... Or maybe it's just a depression on the winter holidays. SOme people get that. And well yes, relationships can suck big time. When you don't even know what it's all about that the other person is upset.