not really, no. it IS hypocritical. but you can't help how you feel. i look at other men all the time, i fantasize about other men all the time. women, too. i STILL want my man more than anyone else. every day is a decision to stay, a decision that he's STILL the best. i can hardly get torqued with my man for doing the same thing.
It wouldnt bother me at all, i would prefer to know rather than keeping secrets. I buy 'nuts' magazine - not for the boobs but for the amusing stories and crap like that. But if my BF wanted porn I say buy it and have fun
meh, like i care. he showed his couple of magazines (hustler) to me the third time i was over at his house (we weret alking about porn/mastrubation), theyre under his bed. if i didnt find pictures so damn dull id probably wanna look at them with him, but i prefer videos in those rare moments i crave looking at porn. its just naked people
It doesn't bother me at all. And as far as the expectation of perfect bodies go, it's very nice to be nudists together. Nothing will raise your body image quicker than hanging out with real naked people. And when I look at porn I would rather see the gals than the guys. I don't know why, but the overly beefed up guys in some of the porn turn me off.
Eh, I mean, i guess the whole idea bothers me a little, to think that my man is in there jacking off to some other girls naked body...but when it comes down to it, no, I guess it doesn't really bother me that much.
My husband has porn magazines and it doesn't bother me (except for when I was pregnant, hormonal and feeling crappy about myself). For us, they are okay. My husband knows that the majority of women do not look so perfect in real life. We have discussed when our son is old enough to want them and hubby wants to get him a playboy subscription - which I am against. That isn't real beauty and I want our son to realize that most women can't achieve an airbrushed look outside of magazines. Any media is detrimental to women. I remember when women dyed their hair to buy a few more years of "youth", now it's botox, breast lifts, and all kinds of crap. Oh and I would never buy a porn magazine myself.
I have to admit that it would bother me... I guess I wouldn't mind if it was just pictures of naked women, who looked old enough to make their own decisions. But if it was something like "Teen Sluts Who Like to Get Tied Up" I would be a little unnerved. Also, I am really insecure so I would always be worrying that he wanted them more than me. But my boyfriend doesn't have any so I don't need to worry. And I know he doesn't because we both live in a one room apartment the size of a shoebox and we have no things so I don't know where he would be hiding them. I definitely wouldn't buy any for him.
no I was not trying to imply that... only stating that I am happy that the man that I am with doesn't want/desire that type of stimulation
I like porn. I own none, for the simple fact that I share a room with my darling, precocious, and somewhat nosy 14-year-old sister, who I do not think is quite old enough to understand and adequately process what she would see if she came across anything of my preference. She has body image issues at the moment, which might be a tad exacerbated by seeing airbrushed illusions on a page. Maybe not. I don't know, but I'd rather not risk it. My boyfriends are both somewhat into porn of various descriptions; we were thinking about getting a subscription to the Suicide Girls website (suicidegirls.com), as they're a little more "real" and a little more to our tastes. We like 'em pierced, inked, and lovely, green and purple hair entirely optional but enjoyed. I have a not-so-secret desire to be a Suicide Girl myself someday, but I'm not in the headspace for it yet.
No, not at all. I did say this was a personal thing, which applies to us, and the other poster did too i think
Thanks for responding, come_do_drawrings and verseau_miracle. I was hoping my question wouldn't come across as antagonistic, rather curious, so thanks to you both for taking it the right way.
My only policy on porn around here is that it not be hidden. If my DH wants to look @ porn, that's cool with me. The only time I would have an issue with it is if I found out he was hiding it from me. But then, I guess that still wouldn't really be an issue with the porn, so much as an issue with him keeping something from me. We're not shy about anything else when it comes to our sex life, so I can't imagine telling him that he can't do (or that he has to hide) something that turns him on. I know I'd raise hell if he tried to do that to me.
I really don't see a problem with it... it's just pictures. Even if it is nude women or men... it's really a natural thing anyways. Instinct wise, a man is programmed to want to fertilize as many woman as possible... so I'm sure that has something to do with it. The fact that he's just looking at porn at not going out finding other women is fine with me.
Nudity is natural, there is nothing natural about porn. Porn shapes men's ideal female form so that a normal and beautiful girl couldnt fulfill it. The book Pornified elaborates. It can even cause e.d. after much use although internet porn is much worse.
I don't care if my boyfriend looks at it when I'm away, and I don't mind watching some with him sometimes... I do honestly feel it is detrimental to society though with the way women are portrayed in it.
Obviously if he likes that he already would prefer that his woman would act like that... if not he probally wouldn't be turned on by it.... I'm not pornstar hot, but I've never had trouble keeping my man entertained.... so I don't know, a lot of girls are judgemental so guys don't really share their true fantasies with them.
I know my boyfriend has some on his computer, and to be honest, I think it really would have bothered me if he hadn't been so honest about it. I don't have anything against porn, it's just not my thing as I don't really get anything from it, and I think it would have bothered me coz none of my previous partners were into it (well, they never told me if they were, anyway :tongue: ). So i'm not really used to... dealing with it, or whatever. But my current boyfriend was so open about it that now it's really not an issue at all. It's just porn after all.
I don't care as long as he's honest about it. I like porn, so I am okay with dating someone who likes it. But usually when they lie about stuff like that, there's a problem with the relationship that goes beyond wanting to see people naked.
