Pleasure during non-orgasmic sex.

ok explain to me what it is that you call pleasure from sex? i really have n o idea what that is at all, i have sex with my hubby to make him happy

 

Well, if you never get that sweet feeling in your pussy, then I don't think anyone can tell you...you know it when you feel it...you've never had any pleasure from sex, ever in your life?

 

nope no i dont understand what your talking about,

 

sex is simply him going in and out

 

Wow.......that's heavy.......I mean, really.....you mean you've never been horny once in your life?

 

explain what horney is/feels like

 

Well, it's a sweet, kind of itchy feeling in your clit, vagina, vulval area in general-if you'd ever felt it, you'd know it, believe me....

 

well til about 4 yrs back i didnt even know what a clit was never mind feel anything from it so no it only gets itchy there when im on my period but thats becauseof my excema and the pads i use

 

Wow, that's too bad...I'm sorry.....I was so horny that I couldn't keep my fingers off my clit when I was 6.......I dunno what to say.....

 

mine is as dead as the tip of your nose its just loose skin that dont do anything

 

Angel, let's form a committee, get together about 6-8 men and women, take you to a nice hotel somewhere, and put our heads together to get you turned on with the idea of achiving the Big O. Even if we don't get you all the way, you might be entertained.

Seriously, though, this isn't the way the rest of us are. Heck, most men and women get turned on several times a day. God made us that way, so that we'd reproduce.

Why don't you go see a counselor or therapist? There are some great videos, too, that walk individuals and couples through body exploration. I mean, I'm sure you're not sick or dysfunctional, but maybe you could use a little coaching.

 

[Off subject note to Xiaoyan]

I love your "location" innuendo. Wish more women would do that -- give men a little more guideance. It made me chuckle.

 

Angel, I'm curious about something....

If your clit is "as dead as the tip of your nose" and you think of intercourse as simply somebody "poking and proding and groping," then why are you here on this site, actively joining in on this conversation?

 

i cam ehere to try and figure out just what was going on or not and if anyone had even come across this before and figured out what needed to be done to make it better.

yes we have done the doctors nd therapy thing, no good, tried viagra, my face got hot, have enough toys to open our own shop, not that i would be able to reckomend any as all they do to me is just buzz, including the magic wand, tried it all just about and nothing feels for much at all being honest, the most i feel is him going in and out and thats about it, oh i can tell when he cums tho!!!!

 

Right, well back on topic. i.e. darkangel start your own thread. You may be bored to death with sex, but I'm certainly bored to death of you stealing others threads to bitch and moan.

I love sex, regardless of if I orgasm. I love it for as long as possible, as for when I've had enough I'll normally tell the guy thatif they want to get off they need to do it soon as I'm getting sore.

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Dark angel has 23 threads about not liking sex, as well as every post is about it. She ALWAYS turns down advice. Don't feed the troll, she loves to do this, just a attention whore.

 

nice one sarah!! show just how grown up you are and that you can count!!! i turn down advice that has either been done and tried or is something that we cant do for a good reason thank you very much

 

you know what? i have been with my bf for 10 months now, and not once have i had a vaginal orgasm. not once, in all those months.

i'm begginning to give up, and beginning to think its really pointless if theres no pleasure on my side..

i dont even know if its him thats the problem, or if its me...

 

I guess that was kinda the basis for SloJo's original question/comment. There are girls who are are orgasmic, and those who aren't, and that's just the way it is. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I've always heard women say, "Men shouldn't take it personally if I don't come." The ones that do -- men who think that a woman's orgasm is their responsibility -- seems to me, are just asking their partners to fake it, which seems to be to be a really dishonest way to be."

Now, don't get me wrong. The guy needs to do his part. Tenderness, foreplay, setting the mood, and communicating on an intimate level is absolutely part of the lovemaking process. But, ultimately, she has to allow her mind and body to go to that special place, too.

I've known several girls who didn't think they had the big O, but they still loved having sex. I mean, it still feels good, doesn't it? Besides, if you place too much expectation and pressure to reach climax, that can be a turnoff.

Funny how this thread has gone. The assumption, I think, is that nearly everyone likes sex, yet here we are are with two women who sound like they'd rather pass, one who's only 21.

 

sorry but i hope you wherent inclucing me in that remark. i like the idea of sex hence why i do it, its just that for me its disapointing when all the things i have been told about just dont happen for some reason

 

You give off confusing signals. Before, it was poking and groping with no pleasure at all, but now....