Please And Thank You

Please, I use these words all the time thank you **read in sarcastic flamboyancy*

 

In China, saying please and thank you to close friends and family members is considered rude (that you don't consider them very close). It bugs the shit out of my wife when I say it.

 

Tone of voice can make a huge difference in how it is accepted.

 

So, What Do You Do Instead, Perhaps Just A Nod Of Appreciation....?????..



Cheers Glen.

 

I have learned from experience, nods are no good. People think your stuck up.

 

Correct, just flash tits and/or a smile. thats universal

 

Since I work the front at Mickey D's, I say thank you ALL the time. Sometimes I say please, but that's mostly to supervisors as I BEG for a break or to get off when there are 3 people to cover what I do. lol

When asses thank me in a sarcastic way for some shit that I know they aren't really thanking me for, I ALWAYS say "no problem". lol I also just say it...no smile. lol

Otherwise, I'm a smiling, thank-you and your welcome kind of gal.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3CgwV3o7AM

 

Yeah, I hate that

Well, Im so fuckin glad it wasn't a problem for you

 

Think is say it too often, that it may cause annoyance.

Maybe i ask too many favours / am around wonderful people that are helpful.

 

I time them carefully so they don't get overused or taken for granted

 

I just stopped saying thank you around her family. Which is easy, because they're 10,000 miles away right now.

 

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Sometimes the radical solution is the best solution

 

all the time, but sometimes i forget )

 

i time them carefully so i say them both at once. "thplank yease."

 

I've grown up with the Western way and adopt it very traditionally, but I can actually understand that, from when I was very little, learning Western manners.

When I was 2 yrs old, I had all this "please, thankyou, excuse me" stuff rammed down my throat.

I remember one of my brainless family demanding that I say please and thankyou etc for something concerning dinner.
So I said "well if I dont beg please, are you going to starve me?" The reply was "its called being polite". So I said "well you're hardly being polite to me" ie I'd decided that their reasoning was a bit circular. I felt they were up to a power game. I think manners should be less about absolute rules, and more about circumstances.

Often its the rudeness people that try and stamp their feet in a tantrum about "manners".

I suppose in China, there's the issue of what is a fair request, what is ingratitude, rudeness etc etc.

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Similarly, in Britain we are told that you should adopt small talk at the start of a phone call before you are asking for something.
I actually prefer to discuss business, and THEN make small talk. Certain countries, for instance, the USSR were known to do it that way more, as a rebellion against what was termed "Bourgeosie mannerisms". To do the chit chat 1st just seems insincere to me, atleast instinctively. Its like it doesnt make sense.