Parents consenting to teen girls overnights with Boyfriend

My kids havent been born yet
but as soon as a world without overpopulation appears
where they have pure lakes air and abscence of war
i will.

then i'll be a master at parenting !

i loved my kids most by not bringing them into this world

 

Excellent! I think the decision to not have kids, for whatever reason, is such a personal choice, good for you for thinking it through and basing your decision on what is important to you.

To the poet person, yes, I did use condoms...apparently not the most effectively....lol....and I am also prochoice, and it was my choice to continue with the pregnancy and have my son. Then it was also my choice to get my shit together...get a career and wait to have my other kids once I was married...hence a 15 year age gap in kids.

The fun part of such a big age gap is having seen where I went wrong, where I went right and learning it all over again with new little humans. There is no perfect way to parent...I'm not perfect, I do not expect perfection from my kids....but I communicate with them, and they with me. I love who my son turned out to be....he is an awesome young man and I never had to say "you are not having sex under my roof" because he never tried. Sometimes when you raise your kids to respect others they actually do.

 

LOL...my son is a bit of an over-sharer at times as well. He would also go visit his dad, who had more loose beliefs around under age drinking than I did...his dad would tell him not to tell me about it, fearing I would call and freak out...my son always told me....and we would talk..I didn't like it but I would never confront his dad about it because really I wasn't going to change his dads choices, and his dad was always with him. It was also a good opportuntiy for us to talk about drinking and things such as moderation. I don't think his father ever realized how much I actually knew about what was going on during their visits.

My middle son has recently confessed he has a crush on his best friends older sister...perhaps I shall sit him down for the rather strict "no sex in my house" talk...is 6 too young??? Hahahhahahahaha

 

so if it's illegal it's wrong? that's funny. You know, women voting was illegal for a while. So was women wearing pants. So was alcohol. So is gay marriage in certain states.

That's real sheep mentality; the government tells me its wrong so it must be wrong.

 

Smoking cigarettes is legal but that also doesn't happen in my house. Lots of bad effects on health/body and I don't think pot does any thing particularly healthy either..and yes, illegal activities are not encouraged in my house...so if there is pot smoking...its not around my home. Thankfully my son respects this and it occurs at gatherings in a friends home, and he knows who to call if things get out of control and he checks in with me through BBM to let me know all is well and if he will be coming home. He's an adult...what he does outside of my house is his decision, he keeps me informed and he respects the rules of our home.

 

OR "people on the internet tell me its good so it must be good".

I think we need to respect that choices some people make for themselves and their family are just that, their own choices.

 

I totally agree!

 

And sometimes they are.

:smilielol5:

I don't know, does he have access to the internet?

:leaving:

The state I live in used to have laws against every sexual position and practice except the missionary position, even for married couples, even if both spouses agreed to try something else. This was back when they were doing secret medical experiments on black people.

 

I don't think the point was that illegal things are good, but rather, that law doesn't have much to do with morality, and it's important to teach your kids the difference, and why the difference is important.

 

I don't think raising kids to respect you means imposing rules, but really communicating and guiding them. (Not saying there shouldn't be certain rules)

My parents were always very open and they talked to me about a lot of things, and really guided me through life. They weren't very strict, but they taught me and my sister enough for us to make right decisions.
We turned out ok, never got ourselves in any trouble.

Oh and I didn't even try to bring a bf home until I was 20 and in a serious relationship. Not because they told me not to, because I respected them.

 

I'm assuming that I'm the "most horrible person in this thread" because I said that I wouldn't allow my teenager to date. Dating while you are still a teenager only seems to complicate certain things like finishing your education or maintaining a job...That is how it was for me. But maybe I just had a bad experience. I just feel like people should date when they grow up and become more mature maybe.

 

nah, it's because of your fonts.

unfortunately, a vast majority of adults are unwilling to date a fellow adult who has zero dating experience, so keeping your teenagers from dating now is pretty much effectively keeping them from ever dating.

 

How you raise you kid is you business. Who am I to judge you on your parenting choices. You may be a horrible person but you will get no fight from me on your thoughts on how to raise your imaginary children.

 

Nobody said you're the most horrible person. Teenagers are hitting puberty, feeling emotions, hormones raging; it's only natural and beautiful that they start noticing each other.

 

Depending on the kid, anywhere from 16 to never.
Leaning towards never.

Females must learn to be smart and discreet. Good first step is by learning to get around authority =P

 

So far, all the parent comments have been about heterosexual situations, or at least it reads that way. What if gay sex was involved? Would that change anything for you?

My best friend's oldest daughter tells me that it's increasingly common for BFF sleepovers to involve lesbian experimentation. She says in every situation she's heard about, the parents had no idea that was going on.

Everything that's enjoyable is a distraction from hard work and self-discipline, so you better make sure your kids don't get to have any fun at all. We want the next generation to be the best corporate slaves they can be!

 

Well...... I sort of did. And I sort of stand by it:love:

Yeah, dating complicates things. And?

The fact that you even think that it will be much of your business if they date, shows what kind of person you are.

But you're worried about them not being able to hold a job? Seriously?

Yes, I do also stand by saying that you having a grateful dead reference in your name is highly ironic. Because you're an authoritarian jerk with screwed up ideas about what who should be doing, when, and how, and what their reasons are.

I'm guessing that you're a bit poor, hence your opinion. But no matter how much money you have, if you think and act like a poor person, you'll always be poor. The idea that your teenager should not be allowed to date because then they might not be good at making money (when on the other hand, they might not be good at it because they're a teenager, and are not ready to hold a normal adult job yet, and NO AMOUNT of stealing the joy out of their life will make them get ready faster, it will actually slow them, in some cases for life) is amazingly screwed up.

You can't make someone grow up by taking the good parts of growing up a bit, and replacing them with the bad parts of being more grown up. You CAN make people grow up by letting them have it all, so they have a reason to.

You will not instil values of hard work and discipline or respect, but rather (and no matter what you see) of secrecy, mistrust, and an attitude of rebellion.

 

Well if and when I have children I'll probably think and act differently. I'll keep maturing. And although I said that I'd never let my children date in my post come on man I'm bullshittin' I don't actually truly have it in me to be that much of a dick!! I honestly just wanted to see what kind of response I'd get.

Don't take the internets so seriously!!!

Yall didn't like my fonts? xD

 

Of course it would.

 

Exactly, and I think that's exactly what Sunshine_Daydream*420* and calgirl are about.
Obey blindly; do what I say or else. Because I said so!
Yeah, that works.
Be nice to your kids, or they'll put you in a shitty nursing home later on.


and yes, it's ironic, hypocritical, and depressing that someone with a Deadhead username could be so.... uncool.