Opinion on boys nights

EEEK, you "let" him? "Approved" friends? Honey, are you his mama or his girlfreind? If he can't be trusted to play with his freinds, without getting into trouble, you have a lot to think about to think whether you really need a more mature man or not. JMO.

 

Actually I was just thinking they sound like a couple that totally deserves each other.

 

I do trust my boyfriend and i dont give him permission to go out because thats not my right, i'm not his mother but the topic has resurfaced a couple of times thats why I wanted everyone's opinions.I trust him and as I said at the beginning,i have no issues with him socialising with friends but I'd have to draw the line when he chooses to hang out in strip joints or entertain other chics. Thats when I believe he is disrespecting me and might as well be on his own. so if he chooses to have his boys nights occasionally I'll trust him to make good choices because his my bf and I trust and love him!

 

Woah, freddy, chillax. You only have 2 posts, I doubt you know Margot or her bf. No reason to get all defensive. Attacks are not allowed on Hip Forums. (what you posted was not quite an attack, but damn close.)

 

still, he's got a point.

 

Read his other post, Kitty, You will see what I mean.

Although I do agree that it is VERY unhealthy to try to control your parthner or to "give permission" or "approve" freinds.

 

OK, that's understandable. Nobody wants to be controlled in their relationship, which is what most posters seem to be saying.

 

I have to add that even if they think they're happier that way, those kind of manipulative dynamics in a relationship are not healthy.

I've walked away from two marraiges because of partners with control issues. Real love requires real security - not manipulative barganing, I mean being assured withn yourself that trust is ok.

FatFreddy, that was a much more tactful way of phrasing your concern, thanks.

 

I agree, thank you Freddy, It is refreshing to see. We appreciate your concern and effort.

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To FatFreddyFreekowtski
First of all your response I wont even take into consideration because you're still very immature and that comes thru in your post. you don't know me so don't get personal, I won't even justify your comments with retaliation. Grow up!

 

Probably not going to help you but this came up in conversation at our work a few months ago about Girls Night Out. Most people were somewhere in between but there was this one guy going on and on about how you had to have time apart and that he was glad his wife was doing the Girls Night Out thing. Skip forward two months and his Wife told him she was leaving him for some guy she met and started dancing with while out with her freinds. Just saying that sometimes shit happens no matter how open you are.

 

fatFreddy, that was all excellent advice and tactfully phrased.

 

Fatfreddy have to agree with kitty fabulous,you were tactful and your advice is muchly appreciated, I retract what I said.
Regards.