OMG kill me

Yes, is that weird to you too? I was wondering if I did anything to offend them. I ordered a margarita with dinner...i wonder if that was offensive?

 

I don't see how it would be offensive, unless ordering a margarita comes hand in hand with a naked table dance.

 

Hmm are they mormon or something?
Maybe they just aren't comfortable away from their house or something, how far did they travel?
Or maybe your husband said you were stressed to have company so they figured they wouldn't prolong it.

 

They don't drink for religious reasons. The naked table dance was saved later for Andy's dad after his mom retired to bed. j/k
They drove 8 hours to his sister's and then 4 hours from there to here and then they have a 9 hour drive home...
When I realized it was just the two of them I said staying here would be no problem and they def didn't need a hotel.
I tried super hard...so if they were offended it's not my problem.
Also, my temp crown broke off last night...so it's like a am missing a tooth (it's in the back)...they never acknowledged me when it happened or asked if I were okay or anything...weird.
they are just way different than my family.
Also, they never asked about my job or my plans to go to grad school or anything about me and it pissed me off, so I talked about it NON STOP lol.
They totally came to see Andy and not me, which is fine...just means next time I don't need to bust my ass cleaning or worrying.

 

Also, something that pissed me off, everyone was sitting in the living room and I was making tea. I asked Andy's parents if they wanted any tea-they said no, Andy replied 'I'll take a sprite'. I gave him the evilest look in the land that clearly said ' your parents didn't say what time they would come nor did they call before they showed up. i busted my ass getting everything together. your parents don't want a sprite so get up and get your own damn sprite'.
i was seriously pissed, but I realized a lot last night. I NEVER want to be a housewife and will ALWAYS make sure I have enough money to support myself because I never want to end up being treated as less than an equal around his family again.

 

I think thats a really smart thing to do. Seriously.
Women are often treated as ONLY housewives, but only cause they let people treat them that way.
So yay for you, Bella !:cheers2:

 

I don't know the situation really, but I mean, if I was married and my wifes family was visiting and I offered them something then my wife asked for something different.. I would just get it for her.

Like I said, I don't know the situation but I think both people in a relationship should do things for each other. If theres resentment, that isn't really healthy for a relationship. I'll probably wait on my wife more than she does on me haha. I think couples should cook together and all that, but then again my mom is basically a feminist.

What you are wanting is an egalitarian relationship. Nothing wrong with that. I think it's important to communicate that stuff to your partner so that issues don't go unresolved, and resentment doesn't foster.

Also yeah, it's always good to have options and feel empowered, which it sounds like you have done by going to school and developing your career. I don't think you should use that as leverage or anything to threaten leaving, but it's good to know you have options in life.