Older married guys

Sounds Great. Hope to talk soon

 

So there are a lot of us older guys who have been bitten by the bug. The only problem is knowing someone who is in the same position as you are.
Even though I have been enjoying some bi fun with my friend(who I know is 100%safe) I am too paranoid to even think about trying anything with anyone else. The odds of finding someone that you know so close is very rare.
Are you guys friends and how well do you know the guys that you do it with? If you haven't done it yet, what is your criteria for safety?
I enjoy bi play, but I don't think it's worth the risk. If I didn't fall into the perfect situation, it would still be a fantasy thought in my head.

 

Topper, you read my mind. This is just the problem as I see it. To make it even more complicated, I am in a soon to be 39 year marriage. I have a very good relationship with my wife. After all this time we are still very affectionate with each other. We enjoy good sex together. I would not want to screw that up. Or, risk bringing home an STD. Currently I have no male friends that I am that close to. And, those male friend I do have, have never given me a reason to believe that they would be interested in anything be beyond just being friends. Some I know are out right homophobic. So, without a change in my circumstances, I will have to stay with my fantasies. <(^o^)>

 

^ I know exactly where you're coming from. It's pretty damn hard to find a person that you feel comfortable with, let alone find the same interest in what you like, inside and out of bi play. For me, I'd prefer someone local, yet around the same age or a little younger. And someone that's open to the experience and not be too shy, not affraid of a little versatility, understands that it's a two way street, and above all - wants to just have uninhibited fun with their best bud... hopefully that would be me.

 

Married, always wanted gay experiences, and now I'm having and lovinggay sex ,she has no idea and i'm really getting into it!

 

Hi,
I'm a 60 y/o man who is very curious; I have been for years but I have never gone through with it. My wifes health has failed over the last several years, so sex at home is a once every 2 or 3 month thing. I have not had sex with another woman, but do think about it. I spend a lot of time on adult sites and porn sites. I think that one thing that appeals to me about m/m sex is that it wouldn't seem so much like cheating if it were with another man, and I think the likelyhood of being caught would be less; although the consiquences would be greater if it did happen. I read a post from someone who had a good friend that he developed a relationship with, that would be a dream come true. I have met a few men on AFF and almost went through with it, but chickened out at the last minute before an actual meeting happened. I would really like to communicate with someone who has experience, and hear all of the pros & cons, and if it is really as good as my imigination thinks it would be.
Thanks
Charles

 

Charles,

Sorry to hear about your wife. That has to be rough. I know what you mean about meeting someone person to person. I have some of the same concerns. I have had some email conversations, but no one on one meetings. On the subject of cheating. I do not think of sex with others, male or female, as cheating. Just enjoying the physical experience. However, I know that my wife would not see it that way. At least if I were having sex with a female. That would upset her. I am not sure about sex with a guy. She know of my bisexual leanings, and way back in the 70's we had a male friend that the three of us would jump into bed, and have great sex play together. He and I would take turn sucking each other off while the other would give my wife oral sex. I know she loved it then. But, he had to move away a long time ago, and it just been the wife and myself since. Attitudes change over time. My wife and me have good sex together, and I do not want that to change. I know that this is not much help to you, but you know your not alone. Feel free to send me a pm if you feel like it. <(^o^)>

 

Here's a question:

What makes you think you're wives aren't doing the same kind of thing, having a bit of same sex fun without your knowledge?

 

Who thinks that? I know my wife is diddling around with another wife/mom in town. We are both doing a little "experimentation" in our later years. We mutually decided that we wanted to experience our curiosity about bi sex.:cheers2: She had been trying to get me to do it with our gay friend for years. Neither of us consider it to be cheating and both of us would feel different if it was with an opposite sex partner.

 

No way to be sure. However, Val has aways said she was not interested in that (Girl on girl sex.). She also knows if she wanted to, that it would be okay with me. In fact, she knows that if she wanted a toy boy it would be okay with me. She also knows that I like to watch, (Her with gals, or with guys.) so I would hope she's not having fun without me knowing. That might hurt my feelings. Not her having sexual fun without me, but feeling she could not tell me about it. Because she know how liberal minded I am on the subject of sex, I would be very surprised if she was playing around without me knowing. <^o^)>

 

I have a couple of married men I suck off we meet in some woods I love sex in the woods as it was the first place I was fucked

 

If they're getting blown by another guy, then they're definitely NOT "straight"

 

I'm in the same boat. I don't consider myself old at 38, but ever since my teens, I've had a strong preference for older guys. Guess it would be a fair assumption to say I've always had a bit of a "daddy" fetish

 

I agree 2 men in bed is some great sex

 

I was married for 7.5 years. Now divorced. I have a friend that we take care of things not very often. Hes smaller then me but it's alright. A bigger one would be ideal but finding and asking someone always stops me going any further. I dont go to any clubs also fear getting some thing. So the best way is to invest in time with someone. Trust always an issue.

 

I am 51, married 25 yrs and love my wife. However, there are just some things she can not do for me. I am finding that fact more true lately, than ever. She does know I am BI, but doesn't know about my true desires right now.

It used to be, she would complain that she wanted it more often. But over the course of 4 brain surgeries, and thyroid issues, I am the one left wanting. She's always cold, I'm always hot. I'm horny, she's not. So I've turned to self satisfaction through porn. More recently I have experimented with live video sharing (Skype).

I have fantasized about a 1 on 1 with another man, but am ever worried about STD's and being mugged or something by a troll. Plus, I don't think I could ever forgive myself for doing that without her knowing and approving of it first.

 

Man, your situation almost perfectly describes my own, except the brain surgeries, with my wife it's clinical depression but the outcome is the same, she's cold , I'm hot, I'm horny, she's not, says it all.
I've ruled out trying to have a female FWB's, WAAAAY too complicated and I still love my wife, don't want another serious relationship with a woman so, my thoughts have turned to guys.
The thought of getting infected with an STD scares the shit out of me, plus I don't know how I would go about finding another ( married ) guy to play with. So I watch porn and spank the monkey, probably somewhat pathetic, but safe..

 

I love my gf and shes in prison. I did have sex with other women but shes said it bothers her. I'm bi and she said suck all the cock I want but finding a good situation is hard. I crave pussy and watch porn. I met her when she was already in. I've never met a woman like her. All my other relationships forbid me of having cock ever.

 

Good luck!

 

I am married and 42 but once a month I want cock so bad I can’t stand it.