"Nice" guys...

you'll need to explain further then, because i've reread it several times and i don't see any subtext that i missed the first time. all i see is basically "i want to get pussy but i don't want to pretend to be something i'm not in order to get it, and it frustrates me that i'm required to do so."

 

edit: i think there's something i'm not getting here

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My take on "nice guys"...it is a rather little known fact (to guys) that control freaks (and sometime bitches) are always on the look-out for nice guys. For a fact, nice guys DO "get laid". In fact, they usually wind up married to women that monitor their every move, keep a close look on the check-book (if the woman doesn't actually control the check book), and basically decide who will be their friends.

I've seen this happen over and over...and I'm old enough to say this for a fact.

Occasionally (rarely) a nice guy will hook up with an equally nice female...but honestly, the occurance isn't often.

I'm not saying to be mean...but at the beginning, make sure the female knows you have preferences, even if you are willing to compromise. AND make sure she knows you are compromising. Unless you actually want to be "guided in about everything you should do" (which some men really do), nicely let the woman to know to start with you are interested in an equal partnership.

 

I'm nice sometimes and sometimes I'm nice

 

btw I urge most guys not to pay attention to or internalize any of this crap. so long as you're not seedy, just work on being a stable/confident enough person to go for what you want. Learn to make yourself a steady rock that some chic can leech on.

 

I fuck nice people.

For me it usually turns out that they eventually drop the act and turn into fuckfaces anyway, so then I ditch them, I want a nice person not a pricksuckingtoad.

 

Well stated and Oh to true.

 

I have no problem if a guy is LEGITIMATELY nice...but honestly, the ones I've ran into come off as nice guys and turn out to be turds.

Lynn, I completely agree with what you say, but then again, I'm kind of "that girl"-mainly because I NEED to be in control of certain things like finances and household things because I'm the one who sees the light at the end of this tunnel we're stuck in. Him and I have a mutual understanding about money and our future together-so he knows that I should control it because he couldn't handle it.

 

Very well put. Does the fact that I think getting laid by one woman is worse than not getting laid at all make me a bad guy?

Variety is the spice of life. Some cliches ring truer than others.

 

lol! Rock on, sistah!