Need some info about "running away"

Don't listen to gate, he's an ass. I was watching one of my lifetime movies awhile ago (thank you, thank you) and this older guy got this younger girl, she was like 17 pregnant, and he pretended he loved her and all but then he took her back to Louisiana to sell her baby for the lady he worked for, it's what he did all the time. Now she was only 17 and her parents wanted to get her back, but since she had already been living in Lousiana for a few months she was considered an adult.. I know you're only 16 so that might be a far ways off, but those lifetime movies are based on true stories, ya know. I would definitely try and talk to you parents about you leaving first, tell them your situation and tell them that you really want their support in this, and if they still won't let you then leave. It can't hurt to try and get their support in your living somewhere else with your boyfriend out of your obviously stifling town. If they still won't let you then you can leave, but it can't hurt.

 

My stepson ran away last yrs to do the same thing your doing.. to be with his g/f n leave this redneck town..well they went to NC and lived with her mom.. he quit school she quit school.. he was 17 she was 15.. Now they are both back she's 4 months pregenat and he's out of a job. They had big plans too.. Now he's looking for a dishwashing job or digging ditches.. no education..if ya cant even finish school . ya think an employer wants to hire a quitter..your not old enogh to make your own discissions.. that's why that have a legel age thing..in texas it 17... you want babies.. if not you'd better stock up on birth control..cuz you wont be able to afford shit..

 

Yes,I am an ass.No,this is not a movie about an older boyfriend selling babies.Yes she can make it,but why put herself through it.Her boyfriend may be responsable but I don't hear about a job or a trade of any sort.He has an AA and is planning on going back to school.When?An AA doesn't count for much in the job world.Many kids get one so their parents will support them for 2 more years.She says she lives in a redneck town,change it.I'm sure she can find like minded people close by if she'd open up her world to them.Where is she really going to go?Somewhere where people have to take care of her,cause she couldn't get a job or worse yet somewhere where she's taken advantage of.What if she got pregnant during this quest for freedom?What then welfare?That makes it hard to get back to school when you have a dependent.What it comes down to is I've been there done that.I took advantage of the generosity of others to take care of me.This generosity could have been better spent elsewhere.I would be a total ass to encourage her to do the same.

 

It seems babygirl just needs a little bit of attention from her parents.Running away,getting her boy friend arrested for statutory rape might just be the ticket!

 

well put celeste.. gate I doubt if any of this is getting through to her.. she's already flaming us for our OPs that she asked for.. so she not listening..

 

I know,I just needed to say it.I just don't want her coming to California.There's truly needy people here already that need support,I can't see wasting it on one more headstrong 16 year old that doesn't really need it.

 

I know what your saying gate and texas don't need her either.. if she loved this dude.. she wouldn't put him in a position to go to prison for 20 yrs and have a 6'5 bubba as a boy friend or worse .. yikes!!.. unless your a street kid you don't have a clue what lurks in dark doorways and alleys.. I shudder to think of any of my girls out there now a days.. boys too for that matter.. they don't discriminate.. my boys use to say I just made up the horror stories to scare them.. they know, now that they are grown that I wasn't making it up.. yes we can only try...


Shameless

 

You people suck, big time. Shameless, I see what your problem is. Your kids fucking hate you so now you're taking it out on everyone else. Just because your son is a dumbass, doesn't mean that I am. And my boyfriend isn't some rich kid living with his parents. He's lived on his own with NO help from his parents since he was 18. No, I won't get pregnant, and yes, I have stocked up on all the birthcontrol you could ever want. What, do you think I'm going to come out there so I can get on welfare? I can do that here! And to the person who said I should change my town, you should pay Owsley County, Kentucky a fucking visit, because you have apparently never been here. You know how many people live in this county? Five thousand is you're lucky. I can't change anyone here, and I tried which is why I'm now on homeschool. I was chased out of the town by hicks waving fucking crosses and trying to burn my house down. SOO, come and visit before you asume me getting fucking murdered like Matthew Shepard is going to help this place.


And, I'm sure you'll all be sad to hear, things have worked out for me! Turns out I won't be coming to take your tax dollars! I told my parents... let me leave, or I'm leaving anyway. And a bit more. AND, they're letting me leave. AND, I'm getting my GED (since I'm on home school) so I can start college a year earlier than anyone else. I'm leaving as soon as my boyfriend and I save up enough money from working our jobs that you people don't think we have. Thanks very much to the people who were actually nice and tried to help me. I love you all. And fuck all of you other idiots who are pissed off because you probably screwed up your own lives! Shameless, maybe your son wouldn't have ran off if you weren't on here everyday bitching at people! It doesn't sound like any of you are doing anything great with your life, and most of you did the same damn thing I was going to. You have nothing better to do than try to talk down to a 16-year-old who you consider a mere "child" anyway. That says something about you.

Everyone else that reads this, please don't think I'm mean. If you're nice to me I'll return the favor times three.

Cheers.

 

So, when are you actually going to run away?

 

Its already been said by most but deff ditto on what shamless heiffer wrote...it ain't easy out there and hard to get a job and not get popped...oh yeah, the groovy juvvey...nothing like getting locked up. Look chickah,, you only got two more years left. If you aren't being abused, hang in there. Seems like eons but it really isn't and better then getting locked up and really getting yer folks fired up atcha. They will not trust you anymore, less freedom than whatever you have now.
PS. my kids adore me and so do half of the ones in this town.But if they ever did this to me I'd rip off their arm and beat 'em with the wet end, But then again, they don't hafta bullshit me either, just respect me and my opinions.

 

I would have saved you the trouble and kicked your ass out.You're spoiled and full of it.Burn your house down....bull shit.Where are you going to get advice some dumbshit that has no idea about the streets.I'd say everybody including your boyfriend are wasting time on you.I'm done...

 

if you wait just 2 years or so, you will be able to leave freely without always looking behind you.
and then you leave freely and spend a number of years wishing you could go back maybe and enjoy your folks before they pass on into eternity.
then you have children that you love but maybe see things differently and they want to leave and it could break your heart. then you will come full circle and see what they saw. maybe.
i have 5 grown children. from 20 years to 30 years. raised them best i knew how. example: no tv, no sports, no this and no that. off and on they hated things i did and hated things i would not let them do. and thru the years, while some at home and some moved out, we have become the best of friends. and today, at 50 years old, they are still my best friends. they call me up to go out with them. they come by the coffeehouses i hang at and pick me up in front of all the patrons. the patrons ask me later: who was that? it was my kids. they like me going places with them.
when i say i wish i could have done things differently for them, they reply not to worry, they turned out ok and they love me for it. they do not live like i lived and do live, the hippie atmosphere, but they love me more than i can tell.
so girl, just remember: no one can write the proper book on raising children. all people are different. all are different circumstances. we all would love to live in peace in the world but if we can't live with family in peace, how do we live with strangers in peace? give peace a chance and see if things can be worked out.
peace and blessings to you in whatever decision you make

 

My stepson ran because his girlfriend moved from texas to NC..of course I wanted him to finish school and to stay here..but he loved this girl.. he's a good boy in his heart..he didn't leave home because of us.. he left for her.. so save your sarcasum.. you did do what we suggested tho.. and told your parents..I bet they were glad to hear it..

 

Perhaps there is a more balanced way to look at things. Running away is like riding a motorcycle. It is not as dangerous as the people who scare you say it is. And it is certainly not as safe as the people who try to get you in claim it is.

The streets can be very dangerous, no one denies this. But you can die anytime, anywhere. High school students and college students commit suicide all the time. Automobile accidents happen. Rapes happen in college dorms. The odds are better if you stay at home...but nothing is perfect.

Since the streets have such a bad reputation, one can be surprised how friendly SOME people can be (not all). Especially if you come from a tough family environment. I got alot of helping hands when I lived there, from people who were in my shoes and understood where I was coming from. To say the establishment has a monopoly on goodness is false.

The only things for sure is that economic opportunity is worse on the streets. But of course you can stay home, go to school, work hard all your life and still end up poor. Also I've known a professional fellow who had it all, big house, family, great job. Suddenly he went to pieces, became an alcoholic. Apparently behind the scenes he was incredibly miserable, and finally he sought refuge in the bottle.

 

An anoligy;I've done heroin.it's not as bad as the stories,I enjoyed it and survived it.It is doable,but I'm damn sure going to discourage anybody who wants to try it.Running away is the same thing.Why encourage it.Yes you do have a lot of helping hands,but why put the burden on them?they could put their energy in a lot better places.

 

Well, I hate to talk about the girl in 3rd person, but we don't know her. We enjoy talking to each other here, but there's an awful lot we can't really tell about each other also.


I feel its hard to pass judgement on her accurately.

I know lots of parents with difficulties with their kids. Most of them are okay human beings who just had bad luck. But there is that small percentage of parents that are just awful. Also there are a small percentage of kids living in a situation that is simply unbearable by any standards (and the parents can't help them.).

How do we know this girl isn't in that unlucky group? I was.

There is an assumption among some here that her parent MUST be good. With that attitude, lousy parents can get away with anything, and no one believes they are bad. Or the assumption that teenagers never live in terrible situations. Which is why so many never get the help they need.

Leave the Pros and Cons posted up here. Hope she makes a wise decision, because none of us are at her side to help.

 

You guys are all best qualified to comment as you've been there, done that. Personally I can't think of anything more dangerous than running away and ending up on the streets.

The only safe way I believe this girl can run away is by having somewhere definite to go to at her destination. What about a cheap motel chain (what are they called in America? Super 8?) or a holiday caravan (trailer) park (not a residential one); she could hire a tent site at one of these parks - they're very cheap in Australia so I guess they will be cheap in America too.

I must say the Mann Act thing is a worry.

This business about not telling her parents... She says she loves them, yet I can't think of a more hateful, spiteful and melodramatic thing to do. Let's weigh this up - leaving a boring town, OR, putting her parents through the living nightmare that their kid could be chopped up in pieces out in the bush somewhere. Not to mention the police resources wasted by going looking for a supposedly missing person. For all you know your face could be splashed all over the papers and TV. We had this happen here a couple of years ago and everybody thought the guy who staged his own disappearance to be a MAJOR LOSER... plus I think he was arrested.

 

Vanilla Faerie,


Don't let our Adult World get you down.
We're handing you a world full of fear and insecurity, because we're full of fear and insecurity.
This world we're leaving our children is a projection of us, and is hardly a world worth living in.

As a child I looked at the Adults in this world and discovered a world of Zombies.
Unnatural, unbalanced, graceless sleepwalkers, asleep to all the natural spontaneous child-like magic of life.

Remember the story of Huckleberry Finn on the Mississippi?
Well our Gothic Puritan America is a stiffling nature hating culture of Aunt Pollys.
Our sole desire is to suffocate the spirit of living adventure from every young innocent soul.
If it was up to us, we'd make sure you never felt the deep natural flow of that mighty river of life.

13 and 17, or 16 and 20, the two of you are living as natural young people have always lived.
But we're a nature hating culture who dispise everthing and everyone who live natural lives.
We'll do everything and anything we can to stop you, and suffocate the natural life out of you till your just a pair of cold adult cogs in the lifeless wheels of mass production.

Be fearless!
Be free!
And don't be too hard on us, for we sleepwalking adults know not what we do.

 

and as an adult I don't give reckless advice to those younger just to be cool or hip

 

I for one being a parent of a runaway.. and being a runaway myself.. would never advise a kid to run..not because of any zombie fear..but because family is an imporant structure of the human being.. the need for a comfortable security and unconditinal love.. we should embrace that love for however long we can..when it's gone there's nothing that can replace it, ever..also you have to face the obsticals in life and not run and hide from them or you'll be runnin' all your life from things that you do like.. it's unproductive.. finish school.. and to get a good job, homescholling is not one the top of employers list of educated employees..well you can sling hash if you want or clean bathrooms the rest of your life..