meh i argued with my ex g/f i'd call her names but more often then not she would call me names... wasn't really a problem because she knew i'd never hit her (or physically abuse her in any manner) so she was more then willing to be just as verbally "abusive" but it was just the way we worked out issues sometimes that got over heated...
You are doing just fine! If you are trying to make a counter point with Sugar maggie, then good luck. You are speaking on deaf ears.