Bronson, sex and intimacy entail more risk for women. We are talking violence, rape, and pregnancy. How do we replace our ressentment of difference with a I'm ok, she's ok attitude? Don't give me generalizations. I've heard them all. I want to know about how we all use reason and logic as a blame-shifting ego defense against self-loathing. And how we self-loath when we are unable to love things the way they are, and adapt to them. And how rationalization is ressentment itself. I'm not lecturing, I face the same psychological challenges.
I'm a bit crazy about broads. They smell great, they look stunning, their fragile and sentimental and deep. Keep it up you crazy broads.
mmmmm I agree to some degree actually. But most guys I have been with are different than you, they love to love me and love that I love them. Giving my company and time is enough for them. When people have expected me to hold up fifty percent of a relationship I became very confused and unhappy. In the work force I am different, but I work in a female dominated field. My male boss loves me though and thinks I am very insightful and smart. My vuenneralbility is private and only my partner and occasionaly my family get to see that side of me. If you think about it, it's somewhat of an intimate privelage, not parasitic relationship
not really sexy, just amusing. he tends to say something like im going to, only better, more thought out, and more, well, argumentative etc
I offered to sign a pre-nup stating I will not get allimony or Andy's retirement, he declined. AND part of the reason I am attracted to him is because he makes enough to support a family, has great credit and pays the bills every month. That's sexy and essential. I need to marry someone responsible who is a good provider. I need to know my future kids will have opportunities and a stay-at-home mom. I need to know that I can go to graduate school and not worry about money all the time while doing it. In turn he makes the larger descions about our life and I follow his career. But, if we got divorced I wouldn't expect anything but child support (if we had children). I, as the lesser financial party am marrying into security. IMO it's not my right to take that if I leave the marraige.
maybe it's just me, then, 'cause when tiago, pavel, spencer and gary do it, i go all squishy in my undies.
yeah, i didn't sign a prenup. i wouldn't screw dave over. i'm just not the sort to try. but at the same time, when we were having a hypothetical discussion, he told me he could never take our girls away from me, they'd be devastated. but they'd be devastated if i ever took their loving daddy away. it'd be a bit different if they were sons. dave's amazing, i'd want any son to grow up with him. our collective take on alimony is that if a woman leaves the work force by agreement, to raise the children, it's hugely difficult to re-enter it years later. it's just a fact taht most people dont' want to hire a mom who hasn't worked for years. she'd have to go back and earn new credentials in school just to compete. a woman gets alimony, frequently, for this reason. i know, i looked for and interviewed for numerous jobs just here recently. my time out of the workforce was always an issue. despite my credentials, despite my recommendations, they were looking for people younger and more accustomed to working constantly and who would be less likely to have to go home if their kids were sick. okay, i can COMPLETELY understand that. it's a business and you have to make sure that that business runs smoothly. now think on this: if you and your ex, who came together to make a family, split, would you want a wife who'd spent her life raising you children the best way she can to be left penniless? your kids won't think highly of you for that. it's not just sitting home and being cushy. it's years of hard, money-earning experience passing her by. i'm not saying outrageous, life-long alimony is right. i'm saying, you better put her ass back to business school or whatnot. you weren't the only one working and losing certain dreams.