My Girlfriend and I...

goddamnit it was so easy not liking you before. but now you've got something with some thought in it, it's evident, and i have to value your opinion. touche on the 180.

 

C'mon, man y'all are a cute couple, really, blackrose. You know, the women I've been with have all been pretty good-looking (I have a severe allergy to ugly women). But those same women went out of their way to tell me frequently that I was handsome, and that's real important (so, what am I gonna say, 'no I'm not handsome?') I mean, you guys are a handsome COUPLE-I'm not a very good judge of whether guys are handsome or not, but doesn't she ever compliment you? I'd bet she does. I mean, if she thinks you're a good-looking guy, that's all that matters-it's a good-looking guy with a good-looking girl, and you're in exactly the same league! You guys look great together, trust me.

 

the girl tells me she loves me 100x a day...she says im the sexiest guy alive, not because i have muscle or like, fabio's hair or whatever, but because i know exactly what she wants. thats great. shes telling me LITERALLY she feels the same way; i guess every human only knows what they think in their own head...

 

thanks for being honest

 

I agree insecurity to a huge degree creates a lot of problems. Either you start acting arrogant to compensate or you go on and on asking why she is with you-both are highly problematic.

She's with you for a reason...I mean dude you already landed her so why trip on it? Would you rather be with somone who you had to put a bag over their head before sleeping with them?

 

come on stop tripping. I said everyone I have dated is attractive.

 

EXACTLY perfectly articulated.

 

That really pisses me off that people who are perfect looking actually have the nerve to ask people if they arent good looking enough for their gf. Are you blind. Your face is perfectly made and its clear your a beautifully created person. Its just too bad you cant see it.

 

im not with her 90% for looks...thats insane. i love this girl. i want to marry this girl. if she had burns covering 90% of her body i would want her just as much as i do now. what im saying is i wish there was a way one could really know what a person wants/intends. everything she says is positive, im just insecure.

 

Regardless of how One sorts things,
Life comes along from the blind side...

My Point?
Enjoy while the enjoying's Good.

 

read above responses. she always says positive things. we have a very open relationship. this is about me and wanting to know if it is common to think this way and if so, why?

 

You both are beautiful.

The negative energy you are feeling will eat you alive and if you let it the relationship will be eaten alive if you spend too much time focusing on her being side swept like a movie scene.

Embrace her beauty and secure your feelings. Trust

 

I definitely agree.. speaking from experience of course.

 

I have to agree. Those insecurities are where jealousy starts, and sometimes even controlling behaviour. Just enjoy the moment. Keep thinking like this and she'll make friends with a foreign exchange student and be really curious as to why you're flipping out.

 

No, I think that about sums it up.

 

yowza...that was deep man. i really had to THINK after i read it. it was kinda like that chris rock skit where he talks about how he was totally clean/innocent getting pulled over one time and was like....
cop: "license and registrat- GET OUT OF THE CAR, NIGGUH YOU STOLE THIS CAR!!"
chrisrock (and im sitting here thinkin like...."shit, maybe i DID steal this car!")

i do love her, i do want to marry her. i think i actually know whats goin on. im older shes younger. shes my second 'serious' relationship, im her third. not tootin my own horn, but she had asshole guys before me. and i think because the MARRIAGE word has been coming up recently, it's effects are just, not scaring us, just, heightening our awareness levels. im def not talking myself out, just scared of losing it...and definetly not trying to find conflict because im miserable when everything isnt 'peachy'...i think i was just doin the male bug out thing, no longer sowing your oats-better make sure your married soil is...fertile. good lookin out bro...

 

ahhh ): how much younger is she than you? That can be fueling a lot of your insecurities if the age difference is significant (like 10 years +).

I think she is good looking and i think you are good looking. Does she know that you have those pistures of her posted in your gallery for all to see though? I am not judging, just asking.
I've been on both ends the one who had to give constant assurance and the one who was constantly insecure because in some relationships I have felt too juvinille or naive. So I understand what you are going through but I can assure you that you are developing other behaviors because of this insecurity that aren't healthy for her. I was in one relationship where I wasn't allowed to have any male friends and in another one that when I didn't need assurance of my worth he would get angry or play games, bother were equally as abusive and I can guarentee that if you go on and give into this feeling you will cause the end of the relationshio through your actions. So don't blow it and show her what a good catch you are instead of seeking her approval-earn it (I'm not saying you don't)

 

Well then, listen to her, dude! Can you spell H-U-N-K? I mean, how many times do girls have to tell you how hot you are for you to believe them? Jeez...

 

she is 3.5 yrs my junior. she knows i have her pictures up, occasionally she comes on and reads messages from people we talk to through the site. i like the part about earning approval rather than seeking it...

 

good you sound like an awesome guy. Earning it rather than asking for it will work wonders-I promise. Be sweet to her and treat her very well and you will see your confidence increase and see how much she adores you. You do like like a hella cool guy who is super open, caring ect. I really hope everything works out!!!