my gf hit me

you say she gets really irritated at th slightest things but your the one causes them. How about you stand on your own two feet and YOU deal with your problem by not provoking the problem and maybe she'll realize Hey maybe he'll change and i'll change.. If not Leave!!

 

i was in a relationship similer to this there was nothing physical but every time my ex get a ted angry she allowed herself to do what ever she wanted with out no concern to what will happen later and how I felt. In the end I ended it becuase I couldn't keep taking it anymore I recomend that you do the same or at least talk to her about taking anger mangement class.

 

its not worth wrecking your guys' self control self esteem etc.


THINK about what would happen if something serious would have happened.

one of my personal experiences is;
Because i didn't see eye to eye with my ex many many many years back, he wanted to control me , i didn't allow him. He was furious i got baptized, wanted to spend time with my step sisters and mom and he followed me to the bus stop which ended in my face getting smashed into the ground. Well 4 yrs has gone by , i have seen 4 dr's for this problem, 2 specialists and i need jaw surgery and braces . So please understand that a lil tiny thing can blow up into a huge one.

 

I re-read the post and I can't see how I am coming off as a pain to you. I am simply offering my point of view to her. It sometimes does not jive with hers and she gets mad/defensive and I am a pain?

I mean, I don't want to push anyones buttons and she is strong willed so she isn't really attracted to those people in life. This is more than simple button pushing though..that's what you do with siblings...this is the occasional severe naturally occuring genuine clash of ideas and how we view the world, ain't no button pushin', I think that downplays the few fights we have had.

 

if you girls hit you get that pimp hand out and smack the bitch back

 

A lot of people who are more seasoned with this relationship and moving in thing say the first year can sometimes be real difficult. My sister has been married for 7 years or so and she said she moved in with her SO early and they had 3-4 major fights the first year. But eventually things settled down.

Me and my SO have been living together since October. We have had 2-3 major fights. But I mean, when you factor in the minor things, things have settled down actually but the major fights really skew things if you let them. we really are just feeling each other out still in regards to the living together situation. The stress of the job and school sometimes comes home too for both of us. Also, the endless dreary maine winters filled with record snow fall (this half century) and freezing cold, week in and week out from early December to mid April bring down morale... I am tellin you!! haha, but I have noticed as work has gotten better for her, school has come to a close and weather improved (finally, slightly) moods have increased too.

 

i was just playing i thought it was funny

 

I didnt read through the whole thead, but your girlfriend sounds kinda crazy.

Hitting you because you didnt help her do her taxes? wow.

 

Carl, see, we're in EXACTLY the same boat, I remember now, I was just moving in with my boyfriend as you were making plans for your girlfriend to come live with you, the first week of October is when I started staying here permanently. And we've had maybe 2-3 major fights since then (even though we squabble constantly anyway).

But I do have to ask, exactly what constitutes a "major" fight in your relationship? In my own experience, I think the ones where I was sure my stuff would be on the porch when I got home were the major ones in ours, lol.

 

for me, I guess one of the majors was described a little...where I was hit.

or where the threat of breaking up is in the air pretty heavy.

 

she shares some info about her day at work, and you what...turn it into some big argument about principles? why can't she just say yeah, things went well today, the kids were well behaved or whatever without you launching into a debate about childrearing theories? you put her on the defensive right away doing that. i said you sound like a pain because i wouldn't be interested in a relationship with someone who felt he was doing me some big favor by criticizing me and the things i do, say, think. i feel a relationship should provide a haven from that sort of crap. if you valued the relationship above being 'right', it would probably be going better. button-pushing isn't just done with siblings. it goes from relationship to relationship throughout life. often people keep acting out the same dramas over and over in various relationships. you might want to think about that. if you really have such differing values and 'world views' that you feel you need to turn her into some big psychological do-it-yourself project, you both would be better off if you went your separate ways.

 

women want to be listened to not critisized when talking to . If you have another opinion swallow it . Save it!! Is it really worth fighting over?

 

the last 2 posts are idiotic.
this girl obviously has emotional problems.

 

lol I hit my boyfriend when I get frustrated...and usually when he tried to restrain me I get even more mad...but we always laugh after my temper swing goes away ..

 

obviously that's a distinct possibility...i'm saying quite possibly he does as well. did you read the whole thread? takes two to tango, honey.

 

She seems very angry & untrustworthy. There's no reason to hit on anybody & the money ending up in her wallet...that would trigger alarm with trust issues. Good luck

 

i had a friend in GA who was in a relationship like that. he is now at A hospitol and his ex girlfriend is in jail. she stabbed him i nthe chest for not taking the trash out. don't be stupid, and i know you love her, but you cant help people that dont want help.

 

It sounds like she is angry that you don't know how to do a lot of the typical male responsibilities (ie-taxes). So it's not about the taxes, prob just that she wants you to be more dominant. By fighting with you she was prob trying to evoke that out of you.
Maybe you two just aren't right for each other?

 

Do you work with kids? Have you taken early education courses? If not, stay out of her field! You took away and criticized what she is good at. No wonder she is pissed!!!
Kids need to learn to identify colors and need to follow lesson plans. That is a huge difference between the european culture and american. That is also the reason european kids are adults at 16 and can attend america colleges at 16 and compete with their 18 year-old american counter parts.