My G/f moved in with her F/B

You're not the fuck buddy or the boyfriend. You're the seemingly stable guy with the apartment and paycheck to run back to when her other relationships don't work out.

 

Hey I totally know what you mean but initially I suggested this idea of her sleeping around and it was my fantasy to see her be promiscuous with other men. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't mind getting some on the side as well but that wasn't originally what we discussed and its the reason why she was hesitant to even go ahead and get into this lifestyle initially.

We both do this because she sees that it arouses me for her to not be exclusive to me. I actually wanted her to make me jealous with her external relationships.She teases me and doesn't give it up to me or when she has me watch her get all dolled up on the weekends to go out with other men; its not because I'm not man enough to please her but because that sort of arrangement arouses me.

As far as my previous statement on her being exclusive to him for 3 months, it hasn't exactly been 3 months but, I did mention that there were a few exceptions and listed some examples.

That may be what it seems like but I'm actually broke and in search for a career. I don't mind taking a break from the relationship and letting my girlfriend date and be another mans partner/roomate. Our 9 year relationship has survived multiple amorous adventures my girlfriend has had with other men while slightly putting me aside and making them her official boyfriend(s), 1 year away being the most extreme.

 

That doesn't really sound like she respects you. It sounds more like she thinks you're a putz.

 

I respect your opinion but how can that be? I mean, I'm the one who had such desires and decided to be honest with her about them when we were 16? I wanted her to do this... she thought it was weird but saw how that I was being serious and decided to try it when we were 19. So can you tell me how that is?

 

If I can be extremely frank with you, this is what I think is going on.

You met this girl at a young age and thus have created a very strong bond with her. We always have strong bonds with the people we grew up with. I think that because you met her and started dating her so young, she eventually wanted to experience other things (people) as she didn't want to only ever be with one person her whole life. So you probably agreed to it, hoping that she'll get it out of her system eventually and then settle down with you so that you can have the woman you want, and always have wanted. In the meantime you put up with her shit because you don't want to let her go. She also may be reluctant to let go of you, but may want to. No one wants to let go of their first.

Just a theory.

 

see what type of guys that i live near?

 

Hi OP,

Amazingly I have never read this thread before, but since I came back home from work really tired today, had a nap, and woke up feeling like I want to relax, I thought I'd go through some threads, and guess what? I found yours.

The hardest type of people with deep psychological problems is this who doesn't realize that they have one. I am not going through the details of your exceptional 'relationship' since a lot of other posters have done already.

I am writing this because chess games' watchers sometimes see what the players involved fail to see, and in this case I think that you, my friend, had been too deeply involved to realize the situation of yourself and your life.

You need a break mate. You need time to sit alone and think, and take yourself easy, because when you start to think about the whole thing seriously you'd realize easily that you've done a lot of harm to yourself, your life, and your mentality. This 'relationship' is too sick to recover, and it is going nowhere towards 'healthy' EVER trust me.

You need to breakup with her, even though I understand that the long years, and being together since a young age, might have formed a bond not really easy to break, but trust me it is best for you and for her to break this bond at the earliest convenience. You both need to be totally free of each other, for your own sake.

If you succeeded to feel emotionally free one day, I am sure that your next relationship will be different, and that you'd let your mind trick you into considering this relationship was just fun that has lasted longer than it should have, or you might want to block the memory...etc. as different people have different reactions.

Take the right step buddy. Get free, emotionally, mentally, sexually, and practically. The relationship with this woman is not gonna benefit either of you mentally on the longer run at all.

 

please for the love of god, don't tell me you are the mystery woman

 

this is actually a really good question does his "GF" post on hipforums ?

 

Although your theory makes sense, it does not apply to us. She never hinted, suggested, mentioned, or even thought of what we're doing now. I brought up the idea, I did the talking and after a couple of years or reluctant consideration, she decided to go for it. She didn't want to at first because she thought it was a test but later on verified that it was something I wanted and she learned to take advantage of the situation as well. So nope, she never said anything about wanting to experience other people.

lol sorry, I'm sure there's freaks near all the other hip forum members as well. Where in Chicago are you? and no I'm not asking for your address lol

I appreciate your concern but here's my question to you... Why would I break up with her? She's doing what I originally suggested. So if she's happy and I'm happy, why do you think it would be a good idea?

Nah, she's not. relax revvy. I'm still wondering what you're doing lurking in this thread

To answer the real good question, no she does not post on hip forums

 

awww thats sad i would love to get her in on this conversation.

 

I did not suggest the break-up as a form of 'punishing' her for something she did, but as a reasonable thought 'if you want' to have a normal relationship in the future.

However, if you're happy with your life and what you're doing, then keep doing it. Who am I or who's anyone to tell you what to do? But I just noticed that you posted it on a forum asking for advice, so I was telling you what I truly think, and thereby I was thinking in the favor of both of you. I can be entirely wrong though. Like you said, you're both happy. I can only wish you to enjoy then.

 

Hey Confisseldone!

I have followed your story with fascination (and not a little envy!) for a while now as you know, and I find it to be one of the best stories/scenario's I have encountered anywhere on these forums.

Is there anywhere I can follow your progress/adventures in greater detail more regularly? I'm sure like most of us you must be busy, but I would really appreciate following your story, if you should care to tell it as it unfolds...

-Otherwise, I shall just have to make do with the occasional teasing morsels you throw out!

 

Most womens' instincts drive them to find men who do not want to share them. Not all, but I'd say definitely most of them... they don't all realize this and modern society tells us a lot to be open about relationships and not possessive but I still believe most women want a man who doesn't want to share them.

Your girl was probably a normal girl and hasn't ever really loved you just puppy love... she maintained the open relationship with you at first but eventually instinct took over and she found a more normal man.