my boyfriend doesn't want to eat me out

Sure and I totally agreee with giving your heart to someone 110%. If you can't do that you can't ever trust anyone.

Also I don't believe LittleIndian that you ever loved him if you are leaving him cause he isn't a good fuck. Have you you even attempted to try and tell him how you are feeling?

Tiffany

 

Little Indian - - - If you really love him and do not want to breakup, you might consider my experience along these lines. Only you know whether you love him or not … or how much you love him.

31 years ago I (42) met a young lady (19 y.o.) and we became close personal friends . . not a hint of sexuality. After five years of this we realized that we both deeply loved each other and started dating. We soon found that she had little interest in sex, had never orgasmed in her life, and really had no desire to learn how. We agreed that she would do me with head/hand for awhile and see how things went. After about 6 months we both easily decided that we loved each other so much that we could happily live a life of unconventional sex together and we were married.

She would get me off with her mouth and hands and was highly motivated to please me and learned to keep me on the edge for as long as I could stand it …. and this kept me from having any desire to stray. All my life I have been highly sexual and particularly enjoyed giving head and for awhile missing this nagged at me, but after 2-3 years the desire diminished. (sure, she would let me eat her, but what fun in that if she doesn’t get off on it?)

About ten years ago (ages 63 and 40) she started losing interest in getting me off every day and gradually tapered off and after a year or so had completely stopped. She couldn’t really express her reasons, just that she had lost interest. Hard to accept, but I did.

During this tapering off years I gradually started masturbating more and more frequently … and after a couple of years learned to be fully satisfied with masturbating a couple of times a day. The only thing that I missed was having someone to talk with about sexual matters … and then discovered online forums and chat years ago, and found Hip Forums very recently. I don’t miss physical closeness since we continue to cuddle and sleep together.

Our sexual incompatibility has only caused minor problems over the years …. but I think that we have been extremely lucky …. and we have a good family with our 20 and 21 y.o. sons.

I would never recommend this to others, but it is something to think about.




Good luck, have fun always, play safely!

 

i can totally understand where the op is coming from. been there, done that. dump him, hon. i can tell you, it won't turn out well in the long run, even if you hang in there for years and years and years out of some idealistic belief. listen to your gut.

 

How about open mouth kissing? Where do you draw the line on bodily fluids?







Have fun and play safely!

 

Even if it's not meant to be...

ZING!

 

AHAHA that picture is pretty great.

 

yes sacrifice
make yourself like it
thats all there is to it
maybe your just thinking negatively about it

 

Oh, for chrissakes!

There is plenty of time once you are married to someone for disappointment over your sex life. Are you going to marry this guy? Is that the kind of love we are talking about? or is this the "movies tell me i'm not supposed to be shallow" kind of love?

Love is a much abused word. If what you need in your life now is to get your kicks, then find someone you can get your kicks with. That IS one of the manifestations of earthly love. You sound young and very sexually motivated. Go with it! You should probably have only one partner at a time, because it is much safer, but fer cryin' out loud don't waste your youth trying to live up to some standard of "love". That comes later, and it has more to do with living in harmony than anything.

You are not shallow because you want pleasure. Everyone wants pleasure, and if anything you are merely sophisticated to have a good idea of what floats your boat.

I LOVE eating pussy. But guess what? My wife says it makes her cum too fast. She likes vaginal sex with a vibrator side car. We're married, and I'd like way more sex than i get. I'm not about to leave her because of that, which is why the internet was invented. You can watch really hot people doing whatever you like to each other, get all turned on, and masturbate. Sometimes, I notice the vibrator is not in the same place we left it. Guess she takes care of herself too.

Listen to your desires. Enjoy your sex drive. Get yourself a man who likes to go down on you. Stop worrying about living up to some standard that was only invented along with the romantic comedy. it's bullshit.

 

maryjohn - - With a little cleaning up, your post could be made into a sticky for the Relationships Forum. Well done!




Have fun and play safely!

 

:iagree: 100%

 

Your boyfriend sounds like a total asshole.

He should enjoy eating you out just because it's you.

He reminds me of a friend I have who says he "would never give a girl oral because it doesn't give him any pleasure".

 

Oh thats the wrong attitude to have, he is gonna be a shitty fuck. He will probably cum before any girl he is ever with.


Tiffany

 

some guys just dont like doing it.... its not a crime. a good friend of mine says he will probably never do it


it doesnt necessarily mean he thinks your vagina is disgusting, maybe he just doesnt wana lick it

 

How do I delete this empty post?

 

Here's the thing now.

I spoke to my boyfriend and told him everything that bothered me. He was kinda shocked and told me he didn't know I wanted it so much, which pissed me off because I had told him several times. When I said I couldn't go on like this, he started begging me not to leave him and claiming how he would do anything to keep me. I said we could stay together, but now upon second thoughts ... I feel stupid cause I don't want to push him into anything, I'll never enjoy oral sex, since I'll always know he's doing it only because he has to. So I guess I'm finally breaking up with him tomorrow.

 

I think thats stupid he obiviously loves you. He wants to keep you by any means. If he is willing to do it to keep you he is definitely worth it. Ugg, you are being so unfair to him.

 

Agreed. This is dumb as hell and I feel like you are using this as an excuse to break up with him. Especially if you 'loved' him as you claimed to. Can't win for nothing. He doesn't do it you break up with him. He finally says he'll do it to please you and you break up with him.

 

Thank you

 

why don't you just take him at his word and instruct him?

Someone will be licking your snatch. You'll enjoy it.

Maybe he's enjoying your assertiveness? Give it a try at least!

 

His pleasure at pleasing you IS greater than his displeasure about the taste, etc.

In time, his joy at pleasing you will probably cause him to change his opinion about the taste of your snatch.

Enjoy! Don't let your man wanting to make you happy become a problem.

("I'm not happy, he doesn't go down on me." "I'm unhappy, he goes down on me, but just to please me." How is he supposed to make you happy?)