My best friend basically said to me..

Sounds to me like she's being selfish.
If you want to go help make the world a better place, good for you. Seems like all she is intrested in is what benefits her and little boring life she will lead.
Go on your adventures and ignore her.
I know it hurts when your best friend doesnt support you, but there's a simple solution.
Find a new supportive best friend who wants to go on an adventure with you or at least suport you in it.
Its what I did and it has been wonderful.
People grow apart. Happens all the time.

 

West Europe is one big third world dump as well.

There's no way to take her opinion serious but it's forgivable because she was drunk . Anyway, I agree with the other people in this thread who said her drunk ramblings about her perfect life and stuff are mainly coming from fear of not succeeding. That's all very human and all but I can't stand it when people ramble about their insecurities in camouflaged drunk superiority moods. Some people just don't notice that they're being an ass and it's worth it sometimes to just make clear you're not really agreeing.

 

My thought exactly. We're not suprised that some people actually think like her right. Everybody is influenced by others and some are easier influenced by authority/culture (parents, highschool, standard of living, etc etc indeed ) than others.
I'm not really seeing it as propaganda though, it's just what mainstream western society has grown into.

 

Maybe you should say something along the lines of "Hey, you were acting like douche to me last night when you were drunk..." and let her know that you want her on board supporting you.

 

fuck people who live in a cage of their own making

 

A bit harsh, mr. Writer. That's an awful lot of people and some of them are rather ok.

 

Haha.. I am going with her in a little bit to get our new driver's license pictures (ours are expired). I do want to say something to her, but I know if I do, she's going to take it to heart and probably start a fight with me. I probably just won't say anything.. like always
Thanks for all those volunteer websites, by the way! I'm gonna look into all of them, and I'm hoping next summer I can volunteer somewhere.



Thanks everyone else for the advice, too. It makes me feel a lot better that you guys support me more than my best friend does haha.

 

Im about as West as West Europe gets

and if this is the same best friend that you've talked about before then she doesnt seem like much of a friend, nevermind best friend..I try not to take drunkeness to heart though. People can be very insenstive drunks sometimes

 

you should volounteer at an animal shelter and help puppies.

 

I would love to do that. I think there's a couple shelters around here that takes in volunteers. I think I would probably cry every day though seeing all those puppies and kittens locked up in little cages haha.





Ohhh! And the funniest thing about this whole situation is that her boyfriend knew how ridiculous the things she was saying were, and he was on my side! Haha. When she was talking about how I'll have no money to travel to where I wanna go and stuff he was like "Well she could always volunteer, I'm sure it's cheaper that way" And I told him that that is exactly what I wanna do.. and the whole rest of the time she was saying her retarded shit, he didn't say one word to her and was kinda pissed off.

 

Me too, but only if you count only the mainland

 

dude wow, its funny how friends can have such opposite goals.

i haven't read through this whole thread, but HH this is my goal right now...its not certain but im pretty sure this is the path im headed down after i graduate next december or next may. and i want to see the world! if at all possible. ive decided recently that if i have to be poor but am able to see the world, i think i could be quite content with myself.

although for the peace corp i kinda want to find someone to marry (male or female (where they permit females to be married) just for the purposes of being stationed with one person i know. cuz you probably know yu cant be stationed with anyone unless you are married....

but dude honestly this chick must not understand what is important to you.

i dont know what i want to do yet, but i know somehow i want to help the world, benefit the people of it somehow...who cares about wealth?

live for you, no one else...the people you meet along the way will be the dearest friends of all

 

spain?

 

What a loser she must be, do what makes you happy screw her

 

I'm the same. Well, not about the volunteering , but I'm already saving up for after I got my degree. Gonna blow all my money on travelling

 

I think EVERYONE should travel out of their own country.. at least once! I want to get out of the consumer society of America and see what it's like to live in poverty.. to see what it's like to not have all the luxeries I have now. My friend is not into this at all. "America is the best" is what she thinks. She doesn't realize there's a whole other world outside of the U.S.

 

Thats funny because America is the last place id want to live

 

if she never leaves the country, then her eyes will never be truly open. ive only been to india, but i spent 6 months of my life there and i bore witness to poverty like people would never believe...and large amounts of it at that.

but its also about seeing various ways of life, finding commonalities with humanity all over the globe. expanding ideas of normalcy and becoming more accepting of the greater world.

her "america is the best" attitude unfortunately stems from her close minded, spoon fed knowledge rather than hands on experience, or even personal curiosity (reading).

encourage her to see the world, help her become a bit more cultured...if thats possible

 

I want to tell her how bad other countries hate the U.S. Haha, she probably wouldn't believe me, though. She believes everything the media says.

I really don't want to live here either haha.

 

You guys all seem so hip and caring about the world.

Maybe I'll be like that some day who knows. But not at the moment.