Monogomy, yay or nay

I don't need waking up from anything. There's nothing wrong with having a differnece of opinion. Your way isn't right and my way isn't right. There is no right and wrong here just a differnce. So stop trying to tell me what to do or call me ignorant because I don't follow your ways.

If you want to debate with me and put forth some actual points on your views instead of calling me young/naive then maybe we can talk about it some more. I feel that understanding someone else is point of view even if you don't agree with it is the point to such debates and what I'm trying to do. So if you want me to understand your side more don't sit there and yap about how I don't know what I'm talking about, it does very little to support your argument and only shows me how rude and arrogant you are.

 

there is no debate. i said we should agree to disagree awhile ago so don't try to take credit for it. Also if you think that you are not right and I am not right, then there is no reason to debate is there? Feel free to call me rude and arrogant all you like. While I felt it necessary to point out my take on your situation (if you disagree and don't want to call it the truth then call it the worst case scenario) I feel no obligation to offer you any more help then that. Good luck with the ideas in your head, you'll need it.

 

Yay for monogomy. I think for many people it can work to be in a relationship with more than one person, all the power to you. Me personally though, though I've never tried it, I know how I am, and am fairly certain it would not work.

 

monogomy never works because we're animals and someone gets distracted and wants to experience something different. Plus, it is possible to love multible people.

 

guess i'll weigh in here. i do the mono things because it has worked for me and my husband for almost 10 years now. we give each other everything we need. this may be because we are both very sexual passionate people and have no energy for others. i also think that it is very o.k. for anyone in a relationship to be open to anything as long as it is agreed upon. i also know that a relationship can be remain strong and wonderful even if you have went outside the mono. box even if you decide together to change later because in the past my husband and have shared before we were married but only together never seperatly. we are also not jealous in the least bit. I think that removing jealousy from a relationship in the way that works for you is how a relationship will work.

 

i was all for polygamy, then i met my love and i knew i only needed her.
i dont think there is anything at all wrong with polygamy, but ya just not for me i guess.

 

The world has been way to patriarchal for centuries. Why not polyamory?

 

I personally don't feel I could get into polygomy, even if I wanted to. I would say that I'm demisexual by nature and can only be happy in bed if I know the person well prior to the encounter. Otherwise it's just dull and I get nothing out of it. So a polygomous situation isn't ideal for me, much less even possible. It doesn't help that I'm ravaged by social anxiety and find it hard to become close to others. It's difficult enough for me to keep track of one person let alone two or more.

So in short I would give monogomy a "yay". Although it doesn't work for everyone and I'm okay with that since it's none of my business. Whatever floats yer boat.

 

It gets extremely annoying. Like with pop psychology making up so much stuff, going beyond the male brain and the female brain into just blatant BSing. Like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by some huckster who didn't even go to school to learn that. Like Iyanla Fix My Life (on Oprah's Network), there's this spiritual healer type who makes women look all innocent, which is a catch-22 (if you're innocent you're "morally superior to men" but if you're innocent it also means that you're sort of a child).

It should be obvious to them (women who speak for other women) that we are individuals first and foremost and secondly that we are split up into different subcultures/races. I don't always like that and wish women could be united somehow by that's not in the cards. I look on the bright side because there are some black people who try to harass all of us to go back to Africa or assimilate or just get a hand up by relying on the government (ideally temporarily). For some reason we're always rallied around to do the same thing. It doesn't work.