yeah exactly. I was hanging out with a guy one time and got really trashed. I came out of my black out in the middle of sex. It was a really weird moment. It felt like I was just waking up with this penis inside of me. Maybe I was asleep and maybe it was rape but I don't really have a fucking clue because I have no knowledge of anything that happened before I sudden became conscious in the middle of sex. He was my ex so we had hooked up before, it wasn't really a big deal. If it had been a stranger I might have felt a little different about it but I still would never call it rape because there is no way to ever know for sure. I've never gotten that drunk again while hanging out with a guy I didn't want to have sex with, thats for sure. I just chalked it up to a life lesson like you said.
Never thought of myself as fortunate until I read your post Melial At the very least, my blackout was spotty and I remember trying to kick the dude outta the bed I was passing out in. I remember him saying nothing was gonna happen. Next flash of clarity came when he was on top and inside me and then I blacked out again. Then waking up and wondering how my clothes got everywhere. The second one started off as consensual sex with one man and turned into gang rape. The fellow I was with was startled when the other men came in and insisted on taking turns. Neither of us really knew how to deal with it and I was decidedly out numbered so i layed there and took it. I still don't know how many men were involved.
Not the second time. Never underestimate the paralytic fear of knowing you're out numbered by people stronger than you to make you compliant. My trauma afterwards, and to this day is about how I should have fought and why didn't I. I'm a scrappy person by nature but in that situation, I found I could do nothing but be a cum dumpster. The other guy, I remember him being surprized and protesting with a What the Fuck but in the end, he didn't want to be the 'uncool' guy to his friends. I think he left the room shortly after but it's hard to recall.