Men are a waste of time.....

The upper class in Britain tended to have separate bedrooms in the same house.Altho that may be because they are gay?


Re space apart , that can work really well.U get that buzzing feeling when u meet up again.

I see couples ontop of each other and it can go all "flat" , mundane even.Like my friend who called his ( now ex!)wife "mum" by accident..

 

best post yet

 

To answer your question, I have never experienced romantic love because women I've met expect me to play co-dependent roles. That fact brings up a lot of painful feelings for me.

But I do love someone who loves me, platonically. He is my best friend. We have a non-judgmental, non-roles-oriented (non-co-dependent),non-coerced, mutual bond.

None of the gestures we make toward each other are coerced. I can share the most troubled and embarassing parts of myself with him, and he'll love me no less. I can request time and space entirely for myself, and and he'll love me no less. He doesn't want to change me in any way, and I don't want to change him in any way. In fact, taking care of my own needs makes him happy, and vice-versa.

If one day I experience love with a woman (which seems far-fetched), I imagine it will be exactly like my friendship with him. With the only difference that we would be physically affectionate.

 

Space apart does help. i drove 8 hours on Saturday and 8 hours home on Sunday to spend one night with my husband while he's away for work, only to get cock blocked by a cattle dog.
We have seperate bedrooms because Andy snores and I am a light sleeper. Houses are really cheap here and tend to be larger, so it's not a big deal.

 

Actually there's alot of specultating about how guys will change because so many *are* just raised by a woman, rather than a couple these days.

 

That is very cool . It's also really cool of you to be that open about your friendship with another male, most men aren't that secure.
We are very co-dependent. I need to be taken care of to feel loved and Andy is the knight and shinning armour type who needs to feel needed. At first I tried to be more independent, but our relationship suffered. Now I just go with the flow, which has meant getting further into being co-dependent. But, with every bit of control I've given up our relationship has gotten better.
SOmetimes I feel really scared. Like what if Andy leaves me for some petite Thai woman when he's over seas (I know he wouldn't, but still). But, if anything happens, I know I can support myself. I also know that a couple months in the gym could land me any man I want. I have a Bachelor's and a lot of good work experience. I think being independent and having my shit together before I got married helps me be okay with beign less independent, now that I am married.
I always pictures myself being really career oriented untill i have kids, but now that I am married, I just don't give a shit about work.

 

I understand what you're saying. Maybe co-dependency works for certain people and not others.

One more important detail of my friendship, is that we never keep growing as individuals. There is a part of our growth that happens in tandem. We have things to look up to that transcend us both. VERY IMPORTANT. *imo*

And, yeah. We don't play macho because macho is playing roles. And roles stagnate me, and keep me from growing and exploring different parts of myself and different parts of our relationship.

 

Thought so.Maybe space apart is an ADD thing tho for some people LOL
My friend with it works 2 weeks England then 2 weeks abroad.Reckons its best for him re his Mrs.But she *hates* it.

 

don't you sass me

and to answer your question, yes...yes i am

 

Funny, most people think of the men as the sexists..

 

ain't you being a bit of a woman....

 

I feel more like a negro than anything in this thread +_+

 

you'll probably feel better over here, then:

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=360340&f=51

 

That one has 17 pages and this one only has 6

 

Nope. I like women.
Or at least the decent ones.
I don't get it, if you hate these stereotypical males so much; why date/marry/hang with them?

But fair enough, you gals didn't start it.

 

*gets out the wip*
Don't what?

You would think.

 

Naw, The Gayest Fucktard did....

I declare to become a lesbian. haha

 

i think you're taking this entirely too seriously. are you on the rag?

 

nothing mistress
sorry
*bows head*

 

Behave yourself or get in your cage.