Masterbation cheating?

What is or isn’t cheating is all in the eye of the beholder. If it is an Acceptable Park of your relationship, acceptable part of your relationship, then it is not cheating. But if you are doing anything without the knowledge of your partner and you know that it will hurt them if they find out, it is cheating. Things do happen in the heat of the moment, but if you can be honest and excepting, and be ok with your partner engaging in the same activity, it’s ok in my book.
My wife does a lot of travel for her work and her company only pays for one hotel room for two “same sex” employees. Masturbation is a common activity. She masturbates to help her fall asleep, and the gal that she does most of her travel with does the same. Light go off and the buzz goes on. She admits that they feed off of each other’s sounds (Who doesn’t like hearing other people have sex). She always tells me about it and I’m ok with it. Maturation is one of the most tame activity that occur on business trips. She has stories that would make a sailor blush. Things happen in the heat of the moment, ask yourself if it will hurt the other person. If so stop. If not, be honest about it and you’ll be ok.

 

I don't think that its cheating

 

I have been masturbating for 50 years plus!
I don’t consider it cheating!

 

I think jayandcay is right but it's a compulsion I find that has grown stronger.

 

I would not consider cheating but sure she would. Wife not interested in sex at all so I masturbate be nice to do with someone else once in a while.

 

Not cheating at all in my book. Would be nice to masturbate with someone (female) who is not my wife. Sex with wife is once a year at best so masturbation helps.

 

What are the simple definitions of love? they could be as follows:
1- A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2- A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3- Sexual passion or desire
When you masturbate in front of a partner, you cross one, or all the above definitions.
So, it is cheating.

 

Bill

Bill, I'm running about 3 times this year for sex with my wife. I'd love a female friend for jacking and jilling but my wife would agree with PGA and treat me the same as if I had physical contact so I'm tortured by wanting to do the right thing by her and still wanting to enjoy the sexual part of me while I can.

 

Wo

Wow

 

If it is confined to strictly masturbating yourself with no physical contact with the other person I don't think it should be construed as cheating Brittney. You could masturbate to a sexy picture alone in your partners absence and that is not cheating. You are obviously feeling horny, crave sexual pleasure, and want to enjoy your love of masturbating at that important time in order to serve your needs. Sometimes we need some other way or some particular inanimate object to help enhance and heighten the thrill of masturbating.

 

Hmmm...if I'm gonna be in the vicinity of a guy who has his cock out of his shorts, there won't be any self-masturbating going on. Why???? Is this a ploy to get around cheating? I have to say, tho, that you both have some awesome self-control to not tear into each other like I would.

 

There can't be cheating unless people have pledged to each other to be sexually exclusive (and monogamous if there are two of them). Unless two people have both promised this to each other, then there's no point opining on whether masturbation involving a third person is cheating. Without a clear mutual agreement in that regard, there's no way to resolve the question. One can't cheat, when there are no explicit and stated rules of the game. A person who has received no pledge of exclusivity from another has no business accusing the other of cheating.

So, let's say that they're married. The most common vow is "forsaking all others." It's still too general, and it can mean many things to many people. The couple has to work out together for themselves exactly where the lines are drawn. If they never worked this out previously, and if one of them has been masturbating with a third person, and this is called by the marriage partner "cheating," then now is the time for them to work it out.

It's very common for a couple to disagree on whether an activity is cheating. When it happens, they have a communication problem, one that they'll resolve to their mutual satisfaction, or one that drives them apart. The word "Facebook" appeared in over 30 percent of all petitions for divorce in the US a couple of years ago. These couples failed to disclose or discuss what they were doing on Facebook. It isn't a stretch for a person to claim that mutual masturbation should be characterized as marital infidelity. If it's a difference in which neither is willing to compromise or accept the other's point of view, then it results in a divorce decree, rather than a mutually-agreed clarification between them of what "forsaking all others" means.