In high school, we knew men in their 50s started masturbating a lot more. I'm not sure how we knew that. One friend tried to explain it since his dad was older, but I didn't get it until my mom explained the whole menopause thing, and that because sex was less frequent, their husbands had to make up for it by themselves. My dad had died by then, so I never got to ask him about it. Later, I saw it in chart form in a book that showed male masturbation frequency by age and it really does dramatically increase in his 50s. The whole experience of learning about it back then sure made me want to help my wife through menopause. Even though I knew I was going to have to masturbate a lot more, I wanted lead her through it knowing I loved her no matter how menopause would affect her. Sure worked! I masturbate 4x per week (1-2 times alone) and we have full on sex once per week, but man, we are so very close, particularly after I've masturbated I'm all over her! She likes that I desire her and her wonderful female body after I've done it!
We are pretty open about our masturbation. We both do it alone and together. Definitely don't have sex near as often but it's OK, I love wanking and have a stronger that way and so does she.
I developed the art, act & practice of masturbation to a full-blown, self-serving, self-perpetuating fare-the-well as a young man, and getting married in my mid-twenties only added to the un-ending thrill, simply adding to but not replacing one moment of my incessant self-loving -- the two are entirely different pursuits, each with its own ambitions & rewards ...
There is masturbation and I've have seen an enormous amount of men in sexless marriages looking for various forms of sex with other men. It seems there is a growing trend of "straight", married men who are turning bi because of the lack of sex in their marriage.
And I likewise perfected & ardently pursued the unending, deliciously euphoric pleasure of 'floating' myself endlessly from one pleasure-peak to another (currently known as 'edging') in a single (sometime hours-long) session! I am still enamored enough of the pursuit of shameless self-adoration & gratification that the word "masturbation" itself quickens my breath & heartrate ...!
I was in my early forties when I discovered how incredibly satisfying & ful'filling' a closer relationship with another man can be .. just another expression (alongside the continued joys of sweet self-loving!) of my insatiable sexual cravings ...!
I've always masturbated when in a relationship. Both are terrific in different ways and there's no reason to give up either.
My relationship with my right hand has been longer than my relationship with my wife. I will ALWAYS masturbate.
Masturbating while in a relationship for me has been better. If I masturbate before sex since I have already “emptied the tanks” I would last longer in bed and make sure my woman “gets hers”. Plus I found I could control cumming better because I had already done so, therefore I’m desensitized and can control my motion to maximize the time.
Married but masterbate all the time. In my 50’s and been married over 20 years. Have sex 2-3 times a month but have to masterbate between sex. Love me time to do it and have gotten the before everyone wakes up sessions. Don’t like to rush it and love to take it with easy making it as enjoyable as possible. Got into edging lately. Did not cum for several days of edging. When I had sex with my wife, she was shocked as she felt I had cum a lot. Told her what I was doing and she said to keep doing it.
Sometimes we married men masturbate because we’re thinking about our spouse who just isn’t available when we’re horny for them. Personally I’m masturbating a little today because my husband’s at work and I really want him to come home so we can take our time and have some good sex…