Learning to use "edging" during masturbation?

it's similar when having sex and girls need more contact and build-up. So I pull out before ejaculating and wait a bit.. it is true though that if you time it wrong you can cum without the orgasm, it just pumps out but quite watery.. if you get the timing right, it can act as lubrication.

While masturbating I do the same, stop stroking and use the clear liquid (semen) to dampen my penis.. although I usually use vaseline to masturbate.

In fact this is one of the functions of semen, the body recognizes with an erection that there is going to be sexual activity so it secretes some semen which would lubricate the woman's vagina.

 

I am also 63 and love to edge. I'm not as proficient as fly2me but I'm working on it !! :2thumbsup:

 

Have been doing it for the past 3 months. Lasts about 4-5 days. The most amazing thing is after about 3 days I squirt a lot of precum, no sperm, and then am able to have a full orgasm 5min later, which is intense as hell.

 

Edging is great, really takes some time to get used to but yeah its helpful.

I personally recommend a fleshlight, those are great.

Also if you'd like to know more on edging you can visit the PEgym.com forums. Interesting site

 

These edging experiences are non-standard ones and will vary with the individual. They are essentially psychogenic and the result will depend upon your age, virility, health and the activity you are engaged with whilst masturbating. It is much easier to edge as you get past 60. This is because the blood flow to your penis is diminishing and therefore your erection will start to fail as soon as you stop wanking. This is very variable and I know that there will be some men who don't get to that stage until they are older - but that is the general tendency.

Also, with older guys, edging can lead to having an orgasm or just a release when your cock is only semi-hard. Sometimes if there is not an orgasmic sensation then it is possible to continue with the pleasure and may be have a full orgasm later.

 

New to this site and not sure if this is the write place so let me know if I am off... I would have started a new topic but I am not sure how.

All I can find about edging is positive, how to or why you should which is the OPPOSITE of my issue.

I'll make this quick as possible. The guy I am sleeping with was a virgin before me. He is currently 21 but didn't even masturbate till around 19 (With me prompting him, telling him he needed to learn about himself before having sex with someone else).

The problem. He takes FOREVER to come. like 45 min of non stop in and out ... This is okay sometimes but a lot of the time I just get OVER it. We talk about it and he insist it just takes him this long to achieve orgasm and he isn't holding back.... well we had another conversation about it and now I am CONFUSED.

He says he has read some stuff and decided that what he is doing is Edging... the thing is most things I find to read about this are about people trying to teach themselves to do this... he on the other hand just stumbled across it and insist he isn't TRYING to do it but that he can't NOT do it.

He says when he masturbates he gets to the "edge" which he can maintain almost indefinitely the head of his penis shrinks and needs DIRECT stimulation to actually orgasm. This explains why he aims his penis at weird angles inside me I guess...

He seems to think he is super cool for being able to do this, I find it frustrating... I feel he should be able to not HAVE to do this every time but I don't know how to change it... HELP!!

 

Hey Pixie,it doesnt sound right to me , Most guys have the opposite problem, especially when young. Also when young most guys just want to get the job done. we can always do it again. He told you he didnt wank until 19, that doesnt sound right either. Either way this isnt going to work for you if it continues, is it ? I dont believe there is anything you can do about it.Youve done and said all the right thnigs to him.. Put up with it or find another lover. Just my thoughts.

 

I started in my 40s so that I could taste my cum. Always wanted to eat my cum, but lost the urge after orgasm. Edging enabled me to fully enjoy my jerk off sessions by allowing me to sip a load while still "HOT". I could enjoy my cum while continueing to caress my cock and balls; after a necessary cooling off time, of course! Eventually I could 'edge' 3-4 loads before I had to finish myself off. Hours of wonderful cock & ball caressing, near orgasms, warm, fresh cum, and a final fantastic orgasm!

I LOVE edgeing!:sunny:

 

The problem you describe seems to be the same as my own - that of Retarded Ejaculation. In my own case this is a side effect of my epilepsy medication, and it's also a common side effect of other neurological meds, such as anti-depressants. Just as you described, when having sex, once things start to be taking too long I'll take over & masturbate myself to the brink, when I can feel I'm about to climax, at which point I re-penetrate for the Grand Finale.

However, for the record, this is not what 'edging' is. 'Edging' is a technique used to make a masturbation session last a bit longer by taking it to the point just before orgasm, and then stopping altogether to allow things to die down a bit before continuing & possibly repeating the procedure as often as required (or possible).

 

Ok bare with me I'm fairly new to forums and on my phone posting this with Swype lol. AS a kid i practiced what i thought was just not clinching as i was probably 13 and had no stamina to speak of. Many years later i found it was a technique that came from tantric massage as a method of permanently teaching control and longevity. I stumbled across this as research after the above mentioned anti depressant retardation which i have noticed while on anti adhd meds as well and while taking large doses of opiates regionally.any ways while on the anti depressants i noticed i would feel my testicles ascends for the all glorious grand copa and the i suppose dining sensation i assume all men feel before climax and to my surprise i didn't climax. Being a heavier guy i found an hour of sex to be to much and would give up and slump over nearly dead for lack of oxygen. A soon after took up yoga and no longer needed medication to regulate my bi polar disorder but found more the glory years of my late teens of what i assumed to be awesome 30min sexual exploits to be at more like 5mins. Long story short i picked up tantric message got both my female partner and let me tell you if you worship the temple before you enter she might surprise you with a water ride, but also as a means of controlling myself. Here is my technique you might try this for yourself. To start i push my climax further away by contracting my stomach and breathing through pursed lips slowly and steadily i only stop right as i feel my testicles ascend and my penis throbs i then turn of all stimulus and wait around 30 second and i start to roll my frinum in a firm but gental pinch. The frinum our whatever the spelling is the nerve bundle art the base of the head of the penis on the bottom aside of the shaft the sort of loose looking bundle of skin. then after a short maybe minute of this i go back to masturbating and climax. I only do this doing once up to the times as I'm doing this as a means of gaining stamina I'm happy to say I'm back to 15mins mind you this is the point of intercourse not for Platt. A technique for using this with a female partner and even being sneaky is to go and pill out right before climax and switch to eating her out. I'd suggest getting lube removing wipes if thus its a long teem partner as i use condoms and birth control fitter the time being if this its just a rump play it off line its nasty tasting but I've finger worse to impress a partner lol. If you are doing this recreationaly look onto prostate massage its essentially how to have s male squirting orgasm. I may have left something out do of you have questions email me. Happy humping.

 

i learned to edge (for hours) around the very same time i learned to masturbate. I think the reason i did it was because i am a premature ejaculator. although i didn't know it when i was a boy.

 

I tend to do this when chatting to a lady online who's doing the same thing. Then I like to make it last as long as we can resist. Solo, I tend not to edge and just get one out pretty quickly. Ladies are sometimes amazed at the strength of the orgasm they can get this way.

 

i could go for hours in my 30s and early 40s but since im 51 not so much anymore any suggestions

 

Just for the record...edging isn't just for you guys. It's a technique I use frequently at night in a hotel after working all day. A hot bubble bath, a glass of wine and vibrator...right up to the edge and ease off...sometimes for a half hour. When I finally allow myself to cum it is VERY intense...ummmmm.

 

The main difference being, of course, that women can have multiple orgasms as standard, whereas it's very rare for men to manage more than the 1.

 

I do this every now and then, but do not have the willpower to ever get past 30 minutes. Usually its around 20.

 

I learnt to edge by accident, when I say edge, I'm meaning that a flow that is larger then just precum, it's almost a semen spurt. I'm 63 so it happened when I was about 60 I think and it happened when I was video taping myself for something I was going to post to Adult Friend Finders and I was overly excited and I had to try calm down and it happened that my cock started weeping clear precum, I continued after a brief rest not know I was going to continue like this and I edged 5 - 7 more times and the flow got thicker and thicker. And here I am still in a SEXUAL HIGH, and so horny and now I was tasting it, but not swallowing it but rather reusing it mixed with my spit to use a lube. That first time I can remember so clear and when I did let myself come to a full orgasm it was still strong enough make do uncontrolled hip jerks but my cock only did a weak spurt and the rest was a really thick heavy flow. As I mentioned my orgasm still made me hip jerk or better described ... undulated back and forth .... trying to say that undulating forced my pubic mound to jut out with each spurt that my cock was trying to do. It looked really messy and sloppy upon review as I was moaning so much and sight of my genitalia in such a erotic condition ... no wonder I still remember so well, thanks for reading folks ... remember to leave comments .. it always helps to know we are here as a community.