I scored a 3 and i'm totally ok with that rating. I've known for a while that I'm equally sexually attracted to men and women.
I thought I'd come out as bisexual but I scored a 4 - homosexual with more than incidental heterosexual tendencies. Kind of confirms what I've been feeling lately, more interested in sex with men than women.
I'm pretty much right there with you. My experience has taught me that sex with women can be complicated. Sex with another man is just straight forward. Wanna come over and get naked? Yes? I'll be waiting.
oh that wasn't a proposition. I was simply stating what a conversation between two guys would be like.
Sorry was being obtuse there. Yes, you're absolutely right, it's much more straightforward with guys, but I don't think that would be enough to sway me if I wasn't also attracted to men (some of them at least).
Your posts are so informative and heartwarming. As a bisexual married guy, I'd say I'm probably a "3" or a "4" on the Kinsey scale (I haven't actually taken the test), because despite being married to a woman who I love very much, my attraction to men is just as, if not stronger than my attraction to women in general. I myself have never felt any internal homophobia, but I do have several homophobic family members and a few friends too. This has caused me to not come out as bisexual to anyone but my wife. It's not that I'm ashamed or embarrassed of my bisexuality, I just don't want to deal with other people's bullshit. My wife, who's bisexual herself, is even very "iffy" (hot and cold) when it comes to my bisexuality. I think that's because she knows I'm a total bottom (and submissive) with men, and that sometimes causes her to look at me "differently." I know I'm in the small majority of bisexual men who actually enjoy all (or most) intimate/romantic aspects of being with another guy (and not just "meaningless" sex). I've only had one same-sex relationship in my early 20s (knew I was/am bisexual since early teens), but that one gay relationship made me realize I can be just as happy/satisfied/fulfilled in a relationship with another man as I am with a woman. After that one and only same-sex relationship ended (we were exclusive, though I was hesitant to call him my "boyfriend" because I feared being judged by others), I did temporarily question if I could actually be gay. The answer was "no", I'm just a bisexual guy who's a total bottom with men. Nowadays, it's my wife who sometimes questions if I might actually be gay, because even though I try to repress my feelings/attraction to men, out of my respect for our marriage, it's been no secret that my urges) desire for men has gotten stronger as I get older (which I don't think is that uncommon). I honestly sometimes wonder if I might actually be closer to a "4" or "5" on the Kinsey scale, because even though I love my wife very much, and we have an active (and kinky) sex life together, under the right circumstances, I think I'd also like to have an intimate/romantic gay relationship with a special guy too. How that would merge or be kept separate from my marriage, I don't know. LOL Honestly though, I don't think it's that uncommon for bisexual guys to have a greater need/urge/desire for gay sex (or in my case, an intimate/romantic gay relationship) as they get older.
I just took the test and scored a 4, which says "predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual." Being married, and having quite the kinky sex life my wife and I share, I would have thought I was probably a "3", but according to the Kinsey scale, I'm "actually more gay than not." Based on the conversations we've had, would you tend to agree with what the Kinsey scale says about me? If you don't want to answer me here, you can private message me, and we could discuss it more if you'd like
I got a 4 myself. Can't say I'm totally shocked by the results, even though I'm married and love my wife very much. Gay or not, your thoughts, opinion, and life experiences are very insightful,very thoughtful, we'll written, and I'm probably not the first one to say this but you seem to be a great guy. Please keep up the great posts and responses. You rock!
Thanks very much, Dave, for your reply and praise. Your comment is very well thought out and I'm sure all of us thank you for sharing. Yes, I'm not surprised that you ended up scoring a 4. And I totally agree with you that as we bisexual men get older, our same sex desires become stronger. We begin caring less about what others, and even ourselves, think, and want to just live our truth, whatever that is. Like you, mine is to have a full-blown loving relationship with another man, and lots of the most intimate sex.
Very new to all this like some other have mentioned. Got a 3 on this test which isn't a total shocker. I'm pushing 60 and have essentially given up fighting my Bi attitude. Have had one sexual encounter with another guy and it was wonderful although I sure wish we'd have more time to play, just wasn't in the cards that day.
